What should you do with a mom like this?

Pre-College Issues High School Life
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<p>I just got into a horrible fight with my mom and I'm really need to calm down right now.Here's some of the stuff I've endured for 15 years.
1. She searches through my bags and room every day.
2. Read my diary, and then TALK TO MY DAD AND TEACHERS AND HER FRIENDS AND WHAT-NOT ABOUT IT .
3.Read my text-messages every chance she's got
4.Go to my school while I'm not there (for instance when I'm on my way home) and talk with my friends and classmates. She asks them what I'm up to lately ex. Do I have a boyfriend?Am I on drugs? Do I skip classes? etc.etc Then she slips in comments about how horrible I am to her.
5.Critisize me because I'm apparently ugly,short,good for nothing,lazy,disrespectful and stupid.And she uses a Chinese term that has a mixture of meanings ranging from slutty to criminal.</p>

<p>I know moms are generally a bit controlling and nosy. But don't you think that mine has gone a little to far? She never thinks that she's wrong and she never listens to anyone.When I reason or fight with her she shouts at my dad(who has high blood pressure) to make me feel bad. She always says "OK,OK" when I tell her not to do something but she continues as she likes anyways. I try to put up with as much as I can but I don't know what to do.I feel like I'm depressed and I sometimes have panic attacks not to mention that she has affected my social life.
I'm a 4.0 student and I've never done drugs or drink or anything like that.Why does she treat me like this. I need advice,pls.:(</p>

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<p>I only see a problem with number 2 and 5
The rest seem like a normal thing for strict chinese parents.
You can’t blame her for checking your text messages.</p>

<p>Afterall, sexting is the latest craze.
I need more information on 2 and 5 to deliver a verdict</p>

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<ol>
<li>Not much you can do. Don’t leave anything “bad” where she can find it.</li>
<li>Don’t write a diary. Or do it in some sneaky way.</li>
<li>Delete your text messages before putting down your phone.</li>
<li>Tell your classmates/friends not to talk to her.</li>
<li>Ignore her, you know it’s not true.</li>
</ol>

<p>It really sucks when parents treat their children like that. Good luck with improving things.</p>

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<p>Not to sound mean, but your mom probably has an insecurity dealing with something that happened in her <em>own</em> life or her close friend’s or her long-forgotten sibling’s or relative’s.
If you indicated you’re Chinese, Chinese moms, no offense, are known for doing a LOT of stuff non-Chinese people would be kind of aghast by. </p>

<p>From the information you gave, I think your mom sounds fine. I think you’d only be worrying if you had something to hide, and if you don’t, and she learns to trust you (which she should by now btw- you might have scared her, or maybe her past scares her?) then she’ll stop.</p>

<p>My 2 cents^^</p>