<p>Hi there, </p>
<p>In moving into my dorm later this week, and I'd really appreciate some seasoned advice on how to get off on the right foot with my roommate. I had a really bad experience last year, and I DO NOT want that experience to be repeated this year. I'm determined for it not to happen! </p>
<p>Last year I wasn't really ready to be away from my mom, and since my housing was covered by scholarships, I went home a lot at first (like every day) and made it seem like I was just using the room as a bed when I needed it. Even after I adjusted and stayed longer, I didn't communicate with my roommate that I really just missed my mom and couldn't handle being away more than 5 nights, and I'm sure that's why she was kind of hostile with me. She was socially awkward in the first place and missed her family, too, and I think she wanted to have that "best friend/roommate" to make it easier. When I WAS there, I was actually spending more time with the girls across the hall because I had classes with them and went to high school with one of them, so I'm sure that was hard for her as well. </p>
<p>Anyway, for this year, I have to go home a couple days a week for work, so how can I best bring this up and establish a good relationship with my roomie? We've been texting the past few days and get along, so I think that's a good start. I just want to make sure that everything transitions "normally," which I've had a hard time doing in the past. </p>
<p>Thanks, and I'm sorry if this is lame. I ended up moving out early last year because it was so tense between my roommate and I, and I really don't want that to happen again.</p>