<p>Long story short, my son was wait listed from his top choice. The remaining 4 universities were very similar to him. He ended up choosing the one he thinks will be the best fit, but doesn't seem too excited about it. Anybody else face this situation? Did your student turn around once the decision was made? Thanks for your input!</p>
<p>Does he know anyone going to this school? Once he meets someone, I’m sure he will get excited about his choice. D was waitlisted from her first choice too. Second choice became the new first choice even while she was waiting for the original first choice. If first choice came through, I really don’t know if she would still pick it. We made a final visit this weekend and she stayed on campus for the night and loved it. We paid the deposit over the weekend and now that she has met people at this school, she is very excited about going and so are we.</p>
<p>Mine wasn’t excited either, but I didn’t try to force it.( she was admitted to all her schools, but she only applied to ones that made the financial cut)
She did eventually come to love it, but I think that came about because I * didn’t* try to drum up enthusiasm</p>
<p>Thanks for your responses. I do recognize that drumming up enthusiasm for his choice wont help 
He will know people at the University because it is our state flagship University. This may be part of the problem. I think he always envisioned himself attending anywhere but there, but academically he knows it is the best school for his major. </p>
<p>T-shirts, sweatshirts arriving by mail. My daughter gasped when hers arrived (I so rarely pay full price for anything!). Sign up for something, like your visiting in the fall for a football game or show. Start a ‘for college’ box in his room with things like shampoo and sheets and towels.</p>
<p>One of my daughters was signing up for orientation and happened on a club section at her chosen school. She just didn’t realize there would be so many or that it would be so easy to get involved.</p>
<p>Are there Facebook groups for new students or continuing students? It might be worth a search. I know my kid has enjoyed communicating via Facebook with fellow future freshmen at her school, which was number 4 in preference out of the 7 schools she applied to. For a kid going to a big school where what appears to be tons of high school classmates are also going, it might be good for your son to see how many students he DOESN’T know, surely many more than the ones he does.</p>
<p>As a slight pivot…</p>
<p>Maybe focus on gently getting him excited about the idea of college instead of the specific college. </p>
<p>The independence, the change from restrictive hs to wide open college, exploration, and so on. </p>
<p>Thanks so much for the suggestions. </p>
<p>You know, I think it’s okay not to get excited about this. Some people have a hard time mustering enthusiasm for what is still a big unknown, and that’s perfectly fine. My daughter was committed to her school once she’d decided, but she didn’t seem absolutely thrilled until she actually got to campus for orientation week. Now, as she nears the end of her first year, she can’t imagine herself anywhere else.</p>
<p>Going through this myself. Hope your son grows to love his choice</p>
<p>A lot of students think there won’t be any “adventure” in heading off to their big state u.<br>
They couldn’t be more wrong.<br>
Are some of his high school friends going to the same Univ.? My kids went to big state u. Having friends from home at the same school was a big plus for them. Urge him to seek out others that he knows who will also be going to big state u. If others are enthusiastic about big state u., it will rub off. At first, S2 wasn’t especially excited about his big directional state u. until he found others from our school/town who would be attending the same Univ.</p>