<p>^ You are in college, you do not have colleagues yet.</p>
<p>Girls in your clubs are not colleagues, they are your classmates and your peers, nothing more.</p>
<p>Okay.</p>
<p>What’s a good way to start talking to them? Most girls I talk to seem to detest talking to me.</p>
<p>Most of the time, to get a girl’s interest, it’s more about not screwing up than anything else.</p>
<p>Just start going up and talking to them and you’ll get better and more confident with time just doing it.</p>
<p>Alright, I’m not scared of talking to girls, but what do you mean by “not screwing up”? I need more specific examples.</p>
<p>You claim that girls seem scared when you are talking to them. This is probably for one of a few reasons:</p>
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<li><p>You are physically terrifying. This can be corrected through GTL. Yes, that’s sarcasm, but really, making yourself look physically presentable isn’t too hard. </p></li>
<li><p>You are “that guy” with no concept of personal space, so you stand way too close to the girl when talking to her. Anything closer than about two and a half feet when you don’t know the girl is way too close.</p></li>
<li><p>Your choices of conversation are weird. Talking about things like sex, extremely nerdy particulars (the ins-and-outs of synapse firing for example) or what your cat eats for breakfast are probably not good topics to choose. Slightly better-but-still-bad topics include yourself and your deepest darkest secrets, how much you hate the world and everything, potentially offensive topics such as religion and politics, and things that are clearly incompatible with her personality type (IE discussing video games with a preppy girl, or discussing shopping with a nerdy girl).</p></li>
<li><p>Your manner of conversation is weird. Are you arrogant, overbearing, rude, or too up front? If you talk for more than 30 seconds at any given time, you’re talking too much - stop. If you have a strange tendency to laugh between every four or five words, stop. If you tend to get very fired up over topics easily, chill out.</p></li>
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<p>The best thing to do is to just play conversation with girls like a tennis match. Ask a question, remember her response, and then add something yourself that she could possibly go off of. Then ask another. For example:</p>
<p>You: “That test was hard as hell, huh?”</p>
<p>Her: “Yeah, I went to the library to study all night.”</p>
<p>You: “Me too! It’s a good thing the coffee bar’s open all night, haha. What did you think about ____?”</p>
<p>If she elaborates on something or seems interested in it, roll with that and discuss it more. People want to talk about things that they like. If they don’t like something, or think it’s boring, they’ll usually lower their eyelids, tune out and nod aimlessly, or just keep saying “yeah” in response to everything.</p>
<p>Never ask a girl out immediately… you gotta put some work in. Get to know her and all that jazz. It allows you to see what she’s like and gives her the same opportunity</p>
<p>After that, never use the word “date”. Suggest grabbing coffee or something like that if you’re getting the right vibes after awhile. By right vibes… I mean things like they way she looks at you/smiling/touching. It’s not hard to tell when a girl is interested.</p>
<p>And if you strike out, no biggie man. Just keep on keeping on.</p>
<p>Have confidence…</p>
<p>It might be helpful to acquire some friends first. Otherwise the hottie you pick up is going to wonder why you are always by yourself whenever you aren’t with her.</p>