<p>It seems to me that today’s parents are involved in their kids’ lives to a degree they never have been in the past. </p>
<p>I have an S who is smart as can be, but he doesn’t study all that much. He is a senior in college. He has no interest in finding an internship or co-op. He is not involved in any activities at school. He is not depressed. He is simply living his life the way he wants to live it - not particularly motivated, not setting the world on fire. He is 21 years old. He is a man. If he was flunking classes, I would step in and stop paying tuition - I am not about to waste my money - but other than that, it’s not my business. It is his life. He will figure it out, one way or the other. </p>
<p>Eventually, our kids have to find their own way. We have to allow them the space to make their own mistakes, or perhaps we only think they are mistakes.</p>