<p>why would it be wrong to tell her you are interested in someone else in the first place? at least it's not a flat-out rejection, just you telling her that someone else has already captured your attention.</p>
<p>"It's not me, it's you"</p>
<p>"I have herpes."</p>
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It should be a flat-out rejection. Don't leave her hanging; that's just cruel.</p>
<p>Well, most normal people would move on. But, if you want a flat-out rejection, you could tell her "not even if you were the last girl on earth." That should kill the spark.</p>
<p>Not what I meant. "You're a great girl, but I don't have feelings for you" is fine.</p>
<p>NEVER say, "It's not you, it's me." That is the lamest response.</p>
<p>Definitely just be honest with her.
As said, giving explanations for your rejection or giving her any indication of a possibility that she could "earn" your interest/attraction is only going to make matters worse and complicate the situation.
I think your best bet is to do as Christine and Camelia suggested and basically tell her she's a great girl but you are simply not attracted to her in that way. If you truly value her friendship, feel free to add that (but don't lie about it -- if she is someone you'd really rather not be around, I wouldn't indicate you "want to be her friend" because that's just going to make things worse down the road!)</p>
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I'm just curious.. and this is purely hypothetical, what if you do have your eyes on someone else? and that a few weeks later the rejected girls see you with her?
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<p>Blitz: As I read it, you are trying to have your cake and eat it too. You want a particular girl. But you are also friends with other girl/s who want you. You still want the particular girl, but you don't want to lose the adoration or friendship of the other girl. To me, it reads more like that than that you don't want to hurt the other girl/s feelings.</p>
<p>I think the biggest thing you need to learn is that sometimes you are simply going to be disliked by people because you don't do what they want you to do. </p>
<p>Tell the girls you don't like exactly what Camelia S. said. You don't need to do more. But expect that it is going to hurt or possibly **** off some girls, and that's just going to happen.</p>
<p>Maybe I'm reading this wrong, but I don't get why you'd be concerned with the other girl seeing you guys together. If it's so, it's really, really nice of you to be concerned about her feelings and you definitely do not want to flaunt your relationship or friendship with another girl in front of her: that's tasteless and cruel and you'd be a lesser man for it. But on the other hand, don't go far out of your way to avoid the inevitable -- she's gonna see you guys.</p>
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<p>lol. I wonder if anyone will believe me if I say I've used this before. I called the girl out for liking someone else with absolutely no reasonable logic and falsified "observances." Conclusion? She bought that junk. Good thing she was a blonde.</p>