<p>Three weeks ago my friend asked me to Homecoming and I said I'd think about it. Today before school he actually asked me out! I was really surprised...I like him but not in the same way. Additionally, I promised my girl friends that I would hang out with them at the dance.</p>
<p>How do I say "no" nicely?</p>
<p>anyone have advice? :)</p>
<p>"I'm sorry but I just don't like you that way."</p>
<p>Unfortunately, there is no real way to say it in a way that won't hurt the other person at least a little (if they like you).</p>
<p>You really can't. If he likes you he'll be hurt no matter how nicely you say no.</p>
<p>But probably the worst thing you can do is lead him on. So don't do that.</p>
<p>Pretend like it never happened. :)</p>
<p>^Don't do that.</p>
<p>I agree with everyone else... don't lead him on, because he'll have to find out that you don't like him at some point. If you lead him on, he'll just feel like an idiot at that moment.</p>
<p>Just tell him directly that you don't think of him that way. There's no easy way out of this situation, unless you just say yes and give him a chance...</p>
<p>I think the nicest solution is just telling him that you already promised to hang out with your friends. Then later on, you can let him know that you don't like him through a friend(s) or certain situation (I mean you can tell him directly, but it might hurt.)</p>
<p>^ that seems like the best solution.........</p>
<p>You may just tell your friend that you already had made plans with your friends, that instead why dont you all go as a group. If then at the dance he tells he likes you or something you may tell him like I am not really loking for a relationship right now and I would not like to damage our friendship for a fight we may have later.</p>
<p>yes laura i think you are right, but you should atleas kiss him for that night.....</p>
<p>Bad idea with the kissing; the last thing you want to do here is send mixed signals.</p>
<p>I agree with kcarls. Kissing sends VERY mixed signals. Unpaper probably had the best advice, just tell them that you already promised you'd go with your friends.</p>
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I think the nicest solution is just telling him that you already promised to hang out with your friends. Then later on, you can let him know that you don't like him through a friend(s) or certain situation (I mean you can tell him directly, but it might hurt.)
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I think that's sound advice. Don't tell him through a friend though. Have the courage and grace to say it yourself. That can be done later though if he still pursues you. Don't show any signs that you're interested in a relationship of that nature and hopefully he'll drop it without question.</p>
<p>I agree with what a lot of people are saying here.. you should just let him know that you want to be friends and make sure not to let him think that you want a relationship.</p>
<p>It sucks that the world works this way.. but it does. But most people do eventually find someone.. eventually.. lol.</p>
<p>Rip off the bandaid or peel it off. Your choice. No pleasant avenues regardless.</p>
<p>actually, I think that peeling it off feels best. Or, you could take a long, hot shower, and it would come off naturally. Not to mention you'd feel warm and fuzzy inside :)</p>
<p>Say sorry and walk away. Suggest someone else that is free.</p>
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Or, you could take a long, hot shower, and it would come off naturally.
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Exactly. I think he'd enjoy that and let you go without a fight. JK. That was a sick joke.</p>
<p>I have a quick question: for people who suggest the solution "telling him the truth directly", have you ever actually been in a real situation and GOT HURT? Or are you the one who "tell the girl / guy that likes you the truth directly" or was not even in a similar situation before?</p>
<p>No offense to anyone. I was just wondering.</p>
<p>"It's not you, it's me." always seems to work in movies....</p>