<p>For several years, my friend has been struggling with anorexia nervosa. Until recently, she hadn't received any treatment for her condition. Despite doctors' and her parents' attempts to get her to gain weight (she is indescribably thin), she ate very little. In the last few months, her parents worried that she would die if nothing was done to treat her condition.</p>
<p>My friends and I have for quite a long time known something was wrong with our friend. We overlooked her minuscule frame; we blamed it on what she told us was a muscular deficiency. But most of us, I think, knew in the back of our minds that her condition was self-inflicted. We just never really consciously believed that it could be ______ who was doing something so awful to herself. And so we let it go, not bothering to put together the puzzle pieces, the clues that would paint a picture of a intelligent, talented, but sick girl who desperately needed help. </p>
<p>Now she's in a clinic getting treatment for her anorexia. I want to contact her, and support her. But I feel that if I don't say the right thing to ______, I could exacerbate (at least slightly) the situation, making her feel worse. What do I say to make her feel better? What is there to say? Do I try to divert her from talk about the situation, and instead try to tell her about all that's happening in school, outside of school, etc.? Or will that make her resentful that she's stuck far away from home? </p>
<p>I suppose I'd like to get opinions from people who've been in the same situation, whether as a friend of the afflicted, or the person herself/himself. I'm just really sad, confused, and worried right now. I'd appreciate advice very much.</p>