<p>Hello everyone! I posted on here before on making friends. I am doing better socially which is good. But it’s not enough. I just need a bit more advice. Skip to the last paragraph if you want to get straight to the point! </p>
<p>I think that a lot more people are starting to notice me. Like 2 guys who live in my hall saw me walking to my dorm. One asked “Oh do you live on this floor? I never see you.” Then the other guy who I saw asked me for my name and asked what floor I lived on and he said “You live on my floor? I never see you. Do you spend a lot of time in your room?” So now that he knows I live near him he always strikes a short convo when he sees me. It’s actually pretty embarrassing when someone tells me they never see me around haha.</p>
<p>There’s a girl who sits next to me in one class. She’s really nice. We talk a little in class. It seems like we have stuff in common. But it does seem like she has her own group. I know I can't force friendship upon someone. This may sound weird but I’m not even sure HOW to make friends anymore. I feel like the friends in made in high school were kinda “given” to me. Since I had known more than half my classmates since kindergarten. Any advice on how to turn our small conversations into a potential friendship? </p>
I do not have a good suggestion here. But I just want to tell you that DS made a similar comment when he’s a freshman. So I think it is not unusual a person may temporarily feel this way in some transition of his life, like just going to college.</p>
<p>The way he made friends early in his college years was that some other student living in the next dorm room on the same floor noticed he played some instrument relatively well and invited him to join their club. In a semester or two, he knew many people very well. An example was that when he wanted to store some of his stuff over the summer break, he could easily find many friends who lived off campus and were willing to help him out by storing his stuff in their apartments. </p>
<p>(But he somewhat regrets that he did not “work” on the bf/gf relationship enough in those years. But this is unrelated to your thread.)</p>
<p>Well lately I’ve been doing my studying in the library instead of in my room. I noticed that I’m seeing more people from my classes and interacting with them even if its a simple “hello”. One girl in a class of mine saw me today in the library and she stopped and we talked for a bit. Same with another guy I kinda know through my old roommate.</p>
<p>It could turn into a friendship by talking to her outside of the class about hw or studying. Or just say ‘hey how are you’ when you see her around campus</p>