I am dropping out of college this semester. You think I am unintelligent, don't you?

[katsy23]

<p>Which college?</p>

[Longdaysahead]

<p>I like the Unbreakable explanation. Ever seen that movie? It goes like this:</p>

<p>There are people out there who, if you were to drop them in an unfamiliar city with no money they would, by the end of the day befriended many people. I know that’s possible. So there must be someone on the other end of the spectrum (i.e. you) who could live for years in the same city and know nobody at all.</p>

<p>Why? Basically you just got unlucky at some point in your life. If social skills are a bell curve most people are clustered around an average. And you missed/screwed up an oppurtunity at some point, else you’d probably be one of these average people (No, I DON’T want to hear about it, just understand it.). So my question to you is: </p>

<p>Are you going to let some random event determine your whole life?</p>

[EmoryBound91]

<p>I’m going to tell you what you want to hear- don’t drop out. If you really wanted to drop out you would just do it, you wouldn’t be posting here looking for advice. You’re going to regret it later (5, 10, 20 years from now when you can’t get a job that pays above minimum wage) if you drop out. See a different therapist, not all of them are good, maybe you went to a bad one.</p>

<p>And worrying about paying a mortgage? You’re going to end up in a low rent apartment in a bad area if you make the kind of wages most manual workers do.</p>

[pmvd]

<p>Hello guys. Thanks a lot for your support. I don’t have time to reply to every single message posted on this thread, so I’ll reply only to this one (for now) because it really touched me.</p>

<p>

pmvd,</p>

<p>do not drop out.</p>

<p>Change schools, housing arrangements, whatever. DO NOT DROP OUT</p>

<p>You will not like menial service sector jobs given your temperament, which is somewhat like mine. Service sector jobs are becoming an even greater portion of the economy, and manual labor employment usually requires a technical degree or apprenticeship. People will always comment on why you look sad, miserable or tired in the service sector. They especially want the “professional smile.” You can do a perfect job, and they will still btch about how you didn’t smile.

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<p>Thanks for the advice.</p>

<p>

“My job is to check your damn groceries as quickly and accurately as possible, and send you on your way, not to give you a damn smile, and if i wanted to do that I would’ve worked at a hotel or something,” is what i feel like telling those morons. Plus I work 35 hours a week, go to school full time, stress over life too much, and put up with neurotic Californian’s everywhere but my room, so of course I’m going to feel and look tired.

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<p>That’s impressive. I wish I had half the amount of energy and motivation that you have.</p>

<p>

David Foster Wallace wrote a great essay on the topic of the professional smile BTW.</p>

<p>Get your degree and work in a library or something.

</p>

<p>I’ll read that essay.</p>

<p>

And EECool is an idiot, but he is right about that when you get a job, it is really not that hard to just say “hi” to your boss and coworkers, and tell your boss “I felt really great taking care of x situation yesterday (even if it sucked)”

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<p>Contrary to what that person suggested, it is not true that I don’t say “hi” to those I am acquainted with personally or professionally. My problem is getting past the opener and maintaining a conversation. I can’t think of anything to say and I simply don’t care to know what people did during the weekend. Also, my life is so uneventful I never feel the need (and possibly wouldn’t have the capacity) to create drama out of ordinary situations. Let’s see: “I was walking down the street… (moment of silence as I build up drama) … and a dog barked at me!” You see what I mean? The only subject I think I could effortlessly talk about all the time is my life problems. Just read all the threads I have posted on this forum. (nysmile supplied the links, see his/her next to last post.)</p>

<p>

Just get your degree. People w/ degrees have considerably more leisure time than those who do not, along with a myriad of other measurable beneficial outcomes. That is a statistical fact. If you drop out, you will have to put up with more of the juvenile nonsense you hate, and because you have to. I am sure their is a difference between a college educated workplace, and one that is not. People mature through their life you know.

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<p>I find the part about the juvenile nonsense particularly insightful. I agree, if educated people, people who have been taught to think open-mindedly, people who perhaps took a sociology or psychology class in college and understand that everyone is different, can barely tolerate me, then what type of treatment can I really expect (no offense) from uneducated people?</p>

<p>

Please don’t do it. Plus it appears you are doing well, even if you don’t believe it.
Son of a gun I hope you aren’t a ■■■■■ because I really care.

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<p>I am not a ■■■■■, but some people on this forum have accused me so many times of being one I admit I’m starting to have doubts. No, I am not a ■■■■■ and I am not trying to have a laugh at your expense guys. This is just how pathetic I am. </p>

<p>By the way, those of you who are paranoid that perhaps I could be secretly laughing at you, do me and yourself a favor and stay away from my threads.</p>

<p>

Just grow some thick skin, and if anyone gives you problems just say, “hi, I have to go do something right now, so i have to go.” They can’t annoy you later on about a response like that. i think that addresses one of your other posts, as well as this one, sort of.

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<p>Easier said than done. I have an obsessive and highly neurotic personality. I lose sleep over the smallest slights, real or perceived.</p>

<p>Thanks for your words of encouragement.</p>

[mephist0]

<p>

You think I am unintelligent, don’t you?

yep .</p>

[ManOfFaith]

<p>Just do it already.</p>

[pmvd]

<p>As far as I know, I am not in the autism spectrum. What I do have is a personality disorder that’s very similar to Asperger’s Syndrome.</p>

[frank01]

<p>How did you make it through high school if you have this “personality disorder” yet have all this trouble in college?</p>

[pmvd]

<p>frank01, because I was misinformed when I was in high school. I thought that maintaining a decent GPA, taking APs and getting a decent score on the SATs was all I needed to succeed in life. Now that I am in colllege, I have seen and heard things and every day it becomes more and more obvious to me that with an autistic-like personality type I am never going to succeed in life. Just picture me going to a job interview. I look ok on paper, that’s why I was invited to the interview, but then when I open my mouth I am going to sound so pathetic the interviewer won’t know what to make of me. Since fifty other people applied for the same job, the interviewer decides to play it safe and consider other applicants. Frustrated because I can’t find a decent job, I’ll have to settle for a meager data entry or service job making $30,000/year. Since I could get that type of job without having a college degree or perhaps a better job if I learn a trade, I see no point in continuing my college education.</p>

[frank01]

<p>Oh okay then drop out.</p>

[TA3021]

<p>

LOL, people who are deaf, blind, disabled, ugly, or poor (which are all far worse situations than autism IMO) make it through college,

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<p>Ugly people have it worse than autistics? Are you serious? LOL!</p>

[xSteven]

<p>Pmvd, why are you here? What do you seek? Obviously you’re not fit to stay in a pool of intellectuals, so go ahead and drop out.</p>

[fizix2]

<p>

I have seen and heard things and every day it becomes more and more obvious to me that with an autistic-like personality type I am never going to succeed in life.

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<p>well you are even less likely to succeed if you believe you won’t succeed</p>

<p>also, what does succeeding mean
my sister is a grad student at a top university,
she’ll probably be a professor in a few years
and she has no friends and never talks to people and is very socially immature
not everyone has social skills,
and even those who aren’t somehow find a niche</p>

<p>unless succeeding means you want to work in business or be president of the united states</p>

[misnomer]

<p>Posts: 136 frank01, because I was misinformed when I was in high school. I thought that maintaining a decent GPA, taking APs and getting a decent score on the SATs was all I needed to succeed in life. Now that I am in colllege, I have seen and heard things and every day it becomes more and more obvious to me that with an autistic-like personality type I am never going to succeed in life. Just picture me going to a job interview. I look ok on paper, that’s why I was invited to the interview, but then when I open my mouth I am going to sound so pathetic the interviewer won’t know what to make of me. Since fifty other people applied for the same job, the interviewer decides to play it safe and consider other applicants. Frustrated because I can’t find a decent job, I’ll have to settle for a meager data entry or service job making $30,000/year. Since I could get that type of job without having a college degree or perhaps a better job if I learn a trade, I see no point in continuing my college education. </p>

<p>That’s not true. Some jobs don’t require much human interaction. Most of the ones I can think of are in academia. You can’t be a professor, but you can do research.</p>

<p>What do YOU want to do in the future? What would your ideal job be?</p>

[jamesthomason]

<p>lol, I finally figured out what PMVD is all about! He isn’t serious about any of this. He is just messing with everyone. When he isn’t having sex with his 25 girlfriends he decides to go onto forums and post about how life sucks for entertainment. You know you guys are entertained by it also!</p>

[bxkxrxxx]

<p>pmvd was hired by CC to do this. Portray the loner character and create these pitty parties disguised as help topics to boost ratings. Even after paragraphs and paragraphs, pages and pages of advice, have any of you seen a change in his stank attitude? No. Does he seem to take in the advice and apply it? No. His only point here is to reel you and feed off your replies. Rest assured, this isn’t the end of The Adventures of Pmvd. The entire life of this clever, staff-concocted character (and his clones) will be generously shared with us from now until the day he can’t find his teeth. When he finally “gets” that he needs a psychologist, that psychologist will practically be satan. The drama never ends. But the day he sees one is a day so far away, and until then pmvd is bound for more exciting trial and fail adventures! Isn’t that right, pmvd?</p>

[BetterThanYouAre]

<p>Whenever I read a thread/post by pmvd I feel a little better about my life. Got a C on a test? Well at least I have social skills better than a parrot.</p>

[Naturally]

<p>I don’t think he’s a ■■■■■ messing with us. I think he’s unhappy, but afraid to change and unsure what to do next.</p>

<p>OP, I think you need to ask yourself what you want out of life, then figure out the steps to reach that goal. This has been repeated various times, but seriously . . . get some professional help. You said you didn’t like the therapist (or psychologist or whatever it was) you talked to last time . . . so find a new one, one you WOULD be comfortable talking with. Figure out how you can put your life on a path that will make you happier.</p>

[LogicWarrior]

<p>Go into academia, it’s the obvious solution.</p>

[rsala004]

<p>your there to study not to socialize, most parents dont send their kids to college to socialize.</p>