<p>I'm a sophomore in HS and my mom keeps complaining about me everyday and we are arguing more and more in an upward trend! Everything under a 4.0 is unacceptable even though I go to a rigorous private school and even though I am extremely involved with other extracurriculars. She just gets soooo mad at me and I can't take it anymore! I don't want to hear her crying and yelling anymore. She turns bright red, has her veins popping, yells so loud the neighbors can hear, and just looks plain scary. It's not healthy for her! She says I don't give a damn about her and I care about her more than I care about myself. "You're so selfish!!" - mom. Everytime I try to explain myself she says, "JUST SHUT UP!!! YOU'RE JUST LIKE YOUR DAD!!!!!!"</p>
<p>The more I try to help, the worse it becomes! And I wanted to spend just a few hours with a guy FRIEND from school down in Mexico and she's not letting me. ."I DON'T TRUST YOU. YOU LIE ABOUT EVERYTHING!" It's not like I have no intention of misbehaving. I haven't hung out with a friend in months. The whole sophomore year I went to 3 birthday parties, homecoming, and 1 movie with a friend (for ap euro). Why am I so bad?</p>
<p>She also thinks I am screwing around online when most of the time I need it for school. I use the comp on avg 1-2 hrs a day for goodness sake!</p>
<p>I can't help but ask, what is her problem?? It disturbs me alot :[
It's like everything I do is wrong when ALL I do is try to do well.</p>
<p>EASD: When you get to school Monday, seek out your guidance personnel for some assistance on the academic end. My son has a friend whose mother always demanded As. When that did not happen her freshman year, she was grounded. She sought some assistance from her teachers, who explained that taking upper-level classes will be a big change, and straight A's are not always possible. After some time, the mom came to her senses. The girl is still an outstanding student, but she has a B or two on her report card.</p>
<p>As for your mom, seek out help from other relatives. You need some support. If you attend church, perhaps your pastor can offer some guidance.</p>
<p>Your mom is struggling with something. If she is unable to tell you, then you need to gain the support of another adult who can be there for you ... and her.</p>
<p>I agree with momreads - your mom is struggling with something she is unwilling (or unable) to discuss with you. This is not simply about you getting A's. Please seek out support from other adults. As momreads suggests, your GC or a relative are good places to start.</p>
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Well, based on your description, I am nothing like your mom. However, I would not let my sophomore son or daughter go to Mexico to spend time with her guy friend (or any other friend) from school...</p>
<p>My guess is that what she really trying to do is to encourage/prod you to do your very best. She thinks you are not for some reason. She perceives your computer time as messing around. Here is a suggestion from a mom:</p>
<p>Ask to talk to her about what is going on...
acknowledge that you appreciate her caring about your schooling (most kids parents Don't)
Welcome her input (throwing her a bone)
Then ask her to sit with you and watch what you do on a nightly basis ONE NIGHT, so she can see what you are doing on the computer; (she will see you are actually getting work done & be able to see the difficulty of the material (its different now from back in the day, much harder in h.s.)</p>
<p>Tell her you love her and that you want the fighting to end and that you want her to know the following:
you will try your very best every day;
you will remember all that she has taught you over the years
that you want to make A's on every assignment or test. all A's is your goal.
That you also have goals to go to a great college (private or public)
Then you can tell her, if you come up a little short--it is far more disappointing to YOU (yourself) than
it could be for her.</p>
<p>Give her a big hug. I think you will address a lot of her concerns.</p>
<p>EASD, I read some of your previus posts and I found out that you are 16yo and you want to spend several days with this boy in Tijuana with his hs senior brother driving. Your mother-- who has not met the boy-- has asked you to bring along a female friend. By the way, in one post you said you would be spending several days with him and, the next day, said one day-- so I don't know what the plans are. You also wrote that your parents are divorcing and that your mom was starting community college because she had neither a job nor a degree. It also sounds like the financial situation is tight and you described your father as full of "rage." </p>
<p>So... I think your mom is going through a very, very difficult time-- not just because of the divorce, but because she is struggling financially and trying to carve a new life for you and her by going to college. <em>But,</em> as incredibly difficult as divorce can be on a person, I would also like to suggest that you're playing innocent and being a little less than honest. I think your plan is foolish and your mom is becoming very exasperated arguing with you over what is apparently a very risky plan (going to a dangerous border city in another country alone with a couple of guys). And I think your post is less than true since you tend to share part of the story and not the whole story-- so I can understand why your mom says you're always lying because you may be lying through omission. In other words, she may feel that she can't trust you to give her the whole story. I think you need to be honest and, if your relationship with your parents is as rocky as you say (you said you and your dad have never loved each other), perhaps you can see if you can find a counselor to help work things out-- but that would take owning up to some responsibility in the situation. </p>
<p>Oh... and as far as saying your mom blows up at anything below a 4.0, you've posted several times with concern about your gpa. You said you had a 3.5 in Catholic school, but you also posted that in freshman year, you earned a 3.3 and a 3.6 and your grades in January were a 3.0-- so, again, perhaps you're not being completely truthful? </p>
<p>By the way, is there more than 1 person posting under your name? Because you wrote you were a 16yo sophmore but, on another post, asked your chances with gpas and ecs for junior and senior year, SATs and a bunch of 5s on AP exams-- and said you were applying early to Northwestern.</p>
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<p>nngmm - read that again. The guy is from Mexico. Nothing involving going to Mexico.<<</p>
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<p>Given the lack or clarifying punctuation, it could be taken either way. I read it three times and still couldn't decide. But based on my experience here in San Diego, it's far more common for young people to hang out and have a good time in Mexico with their US school friends than it is for them to hang out in the US with a friend who is from some school in Mexico. Kids like to party in Mexico because the drinking age is 18 and liquor is easy to get. </p>
<p>So barring a clarification from the OP, I'd go with nngmm's interpretation and exercise caution.</p>
<p>DSC, nngmm is right. The OP has actually posted about this a few times and, according to other posts, she wants to spend time with him in Mexico.</p>
<p>Yeah I actually read that wrong, my apologies. Probably my Michigan glasses got in the way. Add in that I had a foreign exchange student from Mexico. And you find that I can't read.</p>