<p>I'm an only child and even though there is still a year and a half before I go off to college, I think my mom is starting to freak out. We've been arguing a TON lately about little stuff that she usually brings up. I've heard of this psychological thing (I can't remember what it's called) that usually makes teenagers fight with their parents more before they move out because subconsciously it makes it easier for them to move away if they're mad at who they are moving away from. It seems to me that this situation is reversed and my mom is picking the fights.
I need help from anyone... especially those who have lived through this!
Is there any way to avoid confrontation w/my mom without ignoring her (that would probably spur additional arguements)?? Or should I confront her about what I've noticed (I have no idea how she would react to this)?
Thanks</p>
<p>I've been going through the same thing. .. only with hs obviously. I just kept letting my mom go on and on with whatever stuff she had to argue about, maybe react a bit and fight every so often, and let her cool off. That's how I continue to handle my situation but in this type of more personal case I think it should mainly be your decision. If you think it would be fine to bring it up, definately do it. If you think you should take my (in my opinion worse but ideal in my case) way, that should be up to you.</p>
<p>First off, let her go on and on. When she's definately cool down, go to her and confront her. Ask her "Why are you doing acting like this, Mom? What did I do wrong?" I hope that helps.</p>
<p>I used to have that with my mom in grade 10 (?)
She'd pick fights with me - like stupid stuff - like, </p>
<p>"your so messy, you're like a pig, why don't you do something about your hair? I don't like your friends. you have no girl friends, this is what guy friends do to you. they influenced you to live like a boy. but i bet your guy friends live in a better state than you."</p>
<p>And I was like: AARRRGHGHGGHHHH SHUT UP!!!!!!
and i threw spasms and we always got in arguments.</p>
<p>Now I have a healthy relationship with my mom. I could probably say she's one of my best friends hehehehehehe</p>
<p>WHAT I DID - I STAYED AWAY FROM HER FOR LIKE 1 MONTH.
I didn't talk to her much. I'd leave the room if she came in. But when I couldn't escape, she'd try to pick a fight. I just went blank and said - yes. yes. i know. hmm. yess. yes. i know. and pretneded i was really sorry.
She couldnt do anything.</p>
<p>After a month, she just quit and i guess she just missed me lol. She tried to be nicer to me and stuff. And we secretly forgave each other. but we both know that i won hahahahha</p>
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Or should I confront her about what I've noticed (I have no idea how she would react to this)?
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hey that works too! my sister tried this and she just said:</p>
<p>"you always pick on me, you always do! you don't love me, i know you hate me! And i try to get along but you never want to be with me!!"
sob sob sob sob sob sob wahh wahh waaaahhhh wahhhhh</p>
<p>and my mom was just like thinking in her head (im guessing): what have i done?
and she tried to act like jenny was the guilty one and shouted : what are you talking about? I pick on you because you always do something wrong! you always cause problems"
She tried to act really angry lol</p>
<p>i took my sister to my room and she cried and ended up sleeping. My mom came in, woke her up and said she was really sorry and stuff.</p>
<p>don't worry man. ii'm sure this thing with ur mom will go away after awhile</p>
<p>Are u guys talking about me? i think it's kind of age period for ur mom. they just act crazy. so...don't worry</p>