<p>I started the semester off going out a lot to different events and met a lot of people I thought I was going to be really great friends with. Most of the people I met were either from church or from the Christian sorority I rushed. But now I hardly see the people from church outside of church and I didn't get into the sorority and all of my friends that rushed with me did, so I kind of feel like a third wheel/outsider when I'm around them.</p>
<p>I've joined clubs and everything else, but I don't really have any friends to go out an do stuff with. I have one friend I hang out with every now and then, but it's really only when there's a specific event going on that we want to go to. We've only hung out a couple of times just because.</p>
<p>I know it might sound stupid, but how can I make new friends and meet people that I can actually hang out with and go do stuff with? I haven't ever had to make new friends. I had the same group of friends all through junior high and high school and always had friends in earlier grades. </p>
<p>Now, when I see everyone laughing and hanging out and being silly and having fun, it makes me kind of jealous that I haven't found that yet. Does anyone have any advice for me?</p>
<p>Also, I just found out that my friend that I hang out with every now and then is rushing the sorority next semester, so if she gets in, I will literally have NO friends that aren’t in it. :/</p>
<p>Case in point,I am on a commuter school,and social life is terrible without being a frat.People hang out outside campus with high school friends,etc.even my roommate(who I get along with really well) won’t stay here after one semester :/</p>
<p>I’m at a large state school in Texas. It’s a mostly commuter school and unless you’re Greek, most of your friends are people in your major. Since I’m just a freshman, though, I haven’t met that many people in my major.</p>
<p>You could hang out with people outside of ur school maybe ur old friends…or if you have a job hang out with coworkers…or maybe go out on a date or hang out with ppl on ur dorm hall…what about the ppl in ur classes?</p>
<p>I wish it were that easy. All of my old friends live at home 3+ hours away or at another university hours away. I don’t work. My dating life is nonexistent (has never existed). Most of the people on my floor are partiers and I’m not… at all. And because it’s such a commuter campus, most people don’t socialize in class. They ask about assignments and tests and so forth, but conversation rarely goes beyond that.</p>
<p>I’ve considered transferring because 1- I’m not really being challenged here and 2- I don’t feel like I fit in socially, but everyone keeps telling me to wait it out and that the coursework will become more challenging the further along I get in the program and that I will find my place socially. I’m just really getting frustrated because I’ve never been in a situation like this.</p>
<p>If I could, I probably would, but I have a full ride here and can’t afford to go anywhere else. Plus, my school has a really good reputation for what I want to do.</p>
<p>The Christian sorority has a selective membership? Really? Seriously? </p>
<p>Anyway, for some people it takes more time than others. You’re still only in your freshman year. I say continue to stay involved in the clubs you’ve joined and see how next semester goes. Unfortunately I know all too well that college doesn’t always live up to all of the hype surrounding it but give it another shot and see how you feel at the end of the school year.</p>