<p>I just want to say I am not very good at grammar.</p>
<p>So here is the situation, my only friend told me that we should be roommates next year off campus. I didn't hesitate even at though I can stay on campus all four year and the deadline was not up yet. Two week after the deadline was up, meaning I couldn't stay on campus any longer. He goes and tell me that his parents wanted him to live alone and that we couldn't be roommates. I was like "are you ****ing kidding me"? So I quickly got to work trying to find random roommates and a place to stay off campus. Today he come in barging into my room and he tell me that his parents no longer can afford for him to stay by himself so he going to roommate with my current roommate who is my sworn enemy. He goes in and make some excuse like "Oh I'm so sorry", "It just happen you know", "hey I can help you find a place off campus". He came in very nervous and felt really guilty and just try his best to find all sort of excuse. So first of all, he know I hate my current roommates and yet he is taking the easy way out and backstabbing me at the same time because his roommates already found a place with some other people who he doesn't know and he doesn't want to take in the same amount of effort with me to find a place off-campus. His words absolutely mean nothing now, the simply fact is he left me high and dry. There is nothing much worst than that, it three strike against him. The first time was by accident but this time it is permanent. I feel betrayed, I feel like I lost a friend.</p>
<p>How can you deal with your friend living with your sworn enemy, and how can you even deal with your friend being friend and hanging out with your sworn enemy or just someone who you truly hate? Now how can u deal with your friend (he call me his best friend) who decided to be your roommate's roommate over you? How would you feel, how should I feel. I don't even feel the need to have any energy to convince him otherwise, he had the chance to fix thing back the way they are, and he didn't.</p>
<p>With the hectic schedule next year and we are living very far apart, it is likely I won't see him much. I just feel betrayed and that his quick decision will have dire consequence with our friendship. In other word, I think I lost a friend, my only friend.</p>
<p>I feel like you should move on. If you really value your friend that much in which you would rather keep a backstabber, then that’s your choice. However there seems to be other people who would potentially make better roommates or even friends. Unless you’re going to somehow be best friends, I highly doubt you’ll be able to forgive your friend and still feel the need to plot revenge. You should take this as a lesson learned and try not to make it any worse.</p>
<p>That doesn’t sound like betrayal, more of having a flighty friend–who you should reconsider ever depending on again. Worry about yourself and only yourself; you can’t control the actions of others so don’t try to.</p>
<p>I agree with the others to let it go and move on. I was friends with my roommate last Fall, but rooming together completely destroyed our friendship, and he ended up moving out at the end of the semester.</p>
<p>When Spring started, I could tell that he hated me, as if I were his ‘sworn enemy.’ Naturally, I didn’t like that, so I tried to normalize the situation to a point where neither of us hated the other. I thought I succeeded when he thanked me for giving him advance notice about a job opportunity. He had been avoiding me, so I was very surprised and relieved when he thanked me in person. The next day, I found out that he published a note on Facebook that contained a three-paragraph rant about how I was a bad person and a bad roommate. (I didn’t really have to ‘find out’; he actually tagged me…)</p>
<p>At the time, I felt ‘betrayed,’ too. I help him, and this is how he pays me back? I decided that it would be a waste of my time to keep trying to neutralize the situation, so I stopped. Oh, well, that’s my “roommate story.” No point in treating him as a ‘sworn enemy.’ That was the only friendship I lost last year. I gained many others. Move on.</p>
<p>Rooming time is always difficult. Still, I think you should give yourself some time to be angry, and then forgive your friend. Trust him to have made his decision for a reason. If I were in your shoes, though, I would talk with him, tell him that you feel betrayed. Tell him what you told some complete strangers online. If he was guilty and sorry, he probably was.</p>
<p>Maybe he didn’t want to room with you, his best friend, because you two wouldn’t be compatible as roommates. Sometimes it’s a bad idea to room with friends, a good friendship can be ruined over stupid squabbles. Don’t completely ditch your friend without figuring out the whole story.</p>
<p>but rooming with a person that OP probably clearly expressed he didn’t like? That’s like a slap to the face. I think that this friend is one of those fiends that you can probably have a good time with, but not depend on for anything else.</p>
<p>The OP never expressed their reason for why this individual is their sworn enemy. Maybe the OP is being unreasonable, we don’t know the whole story. Maybe the OP shouldn’t be friends with this person, but I would argue that they should be given a chance to defend themselves.</p>