<p>I posted a little bit ago but i don't feel i explained my situation well enough. i moved in 2 weeks ago and i made friends but i only see them for dinner or for hanging out a little before. So far I have not been alone on weekend nights. I've gone out to parties with friends. And i do have plans once in a while during the day but i just want a group of friends to hang out with. During the day i feel so alone. I have no one to hang out with so i sit in my room alone until like dinner time. I end up crying because i feel so alone. Everyone seems to have their friend groups. Oh and also the friends i've made, i feel like they all have their own best friends and i'm just the floater who hangs out with them when their not with their friends. what should i do?!</p>
<p>Sorry to hear about your loneliness… but don’t worry … It is early yet, things will get better and you will make friends… One suggestion is to get outside rather than sit in your room when you feel lonely. If you have an outdoor commons or quad where you can sit on a bench or under a tree with a book or a sketch pad or something else you can do with your hands… perhaps someone will take an interest in what you are doing and stike up a converstion or you will find someone sitting outside to talk to too… Just not being cooped up your room is good. If there is no outdoor area … try the student center or someplace where there is activity. </p>
<p>When you are the floater… make the most of of it… try to loosen up and have fun and be fun and the other person may seek you out.</p>
<p>Do not wait for others to come to you or come up with ideas… pay attention to upcoming events and try to get the group interested.</p>
<p>Invite the group into your room for snacks or a game.</p>
<p>Come up with an idea for a place to go off campus and invite people you hang out with or just go for a walk… or study together if you are in the same classes.</p>
<p>Find people with interests similar to yours by joining a club.</p>
<p>Even if you are shy… smile and say hello when you see a friendly face… or just keep your head up and smile…</p>
<p>keep in mind, there’s others who are lonely too, so you’re not alone in being lonely. matter of putting effort into finding others who are dealing with similar situations, and naturally they gravitate towards you.</p>
<p>I think if you do a search you’ll find ~1391837 helpful threads on this same topic.</p>
<p>hey don’t worry…try to avoid this type of loneliness…and also try to participate actively for all the activities with public…and you can make some more friendship with your living areas…!!!</p>
<p>Don’t be in a state of loneliness, instead put efforts to be in touch with suitable personalities around you. You can make life more colourful if you intended to do some efforts.</p>
<p>I know how you feel…but remember this is a new start! No one knows anyone anymore. If people are hanging out together, ask if you can join. If they say no, what’s the worst that could happen? Invite people to go with you. In my hall, we never go to meals alone. We always wait around, even if we’re starving, until someone shows up to go with. And even if the other person is a stranger still, you get to know them while you eat. Introduce yourself to people in your classes. Join a club of some sort–try out for something you’ve never done before, but always wished you could. (I myself am trying out for a dance team even if I’ve never danced before. Never even been to a school dance.) </p>
<p>But most importantly, DON’T SIT IN YOUR DORM. If you must stay inside and sit around, sit around in the common room. People’ll pass by and you can talk to them. The majority of my hall spends their free time in the common room, and we do everything from playing DDR or Nintendo 64 games to rearranging furniture to eating chips that someone found in the kitchen. The few people who no one really knows are the ones who are never spending time in the common room. Your hall is your new family–spend time with them!</p>
<p>I’m an insanely shy and introverted person by nature, but someone told me recently that friendships are huge investments. They could take a little to initialize, or a lot, but they require constant and consistent attention, but they’re worth the risk. But it takes effort. And courage. To put yourself out there. And if you just let the people or opportunities slip by because you were too frightened, because then you’d only be cheating yourself. Let loose a little. Once you have no one’s standards to live up to, then you’ll be the one people come running after.</p>