Ill be attending the same school as my sister in the fall and i feel as if i made the wrong decision. Its not that i don’t like my sister its just that i feel as if i won’t have the full college experience. I felt this feeling all along but the problem is that her school is a fairly good school and all the other schools that accepted me were pretty shitty or just way too expensive.
Are you afraid your sister will tell your parents what you are doing as part of the “full college experience”?
Not even, me and my sister are very close and have an agreement with that sort of stuff but i feel like i have been following in her footsteps my entire life and I’m not branching out doing my own things and living my own life.
What School? if it is a mega-school like Penn State you will probably never even see her there.
It’s not the school. You have to get over your personal issue.
If you go somewhere else because of your sister, wouldn’t you be letting her dictate your choice of college (even when she doesn’t even want to)? How independent is that?
OK, I saw on your other thread: a) you fell in love with the school when you visited; b) it has 7,000 students & c) you and your sister would be in completely separate majors. I went to a school 1/3 that size and rarely saw my brother.
Try to relax about it. If it becomes a problem, you can consider transferring. I imagine the opposite might happen–that you’ll learn pretty quickly that there are benefits to having an older sibling on campus.
yeah idk its stressful. And now I’m considering changing majors idk what to do.
Your concern seems to be more about “doing your own thing” and not following her. Then when you get there, make your own friends, find your own activities and organizations. Create your own path.
You may also find you like being at the same school. Since you say you are close, it will be nice to be able to see her when you want to (but you don’t have to, it’s your choice!).
Why is it stressful? No one will care.
Many students change their majors - and a significant number change more than once. That’s why you don’t generally formally declare your major until the start of your junior year. Unless you are suddenly trying to get into a major for which there is a separate application process or one that isn’t offered at your school, you don’t have to worry about this. And just because your application said you were interested in X doesn’t mean you are committed. I think you’re just flailing a bit because your life is about to change. Perfectly natural but cut yourself some slack.
The great thing about college is that it is what you make of it. If you dive in and get involved in what interests you without regard to what your sister is doing or what your ‘declared’ major is going in, then I promise you will have the fulll college experience and have a chance to find your way.
Even if you and sister end up in the same major, you won’t see each other a lot because you’ll be taking GenEd and 100 level classes, and she’ll be in upper-division classes.
My kids were both STEM majors at the same school and had a LOT of crossover classes, but they only saw each other when they PLANNED to (they had a standing Tuesday lunch meet…and one semester they purposely took an Italian class together…)
You probably won’t see your sister or be " in her shadow" as much as you are anticipating, especially since you’re going to be in separate majors and classes. As long as you are intent on forming your own identity and paving your own path, you won’t have a problem. You will have your own set of friends and interests and be completely fine!
Getting cold feet is no fun but once you jump in, you’ll warm up in no time.
thanks guys i really appreciate it