I Hate My College So Much

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I’m currently a freshman and I just started my second semester. After the first week of school last semester, I knew I didn’t like it very much and I realized I picked the wrong school. I decided to come to a branch campus of a university about 2 hours away from the main campus, where the main campus was only about 20 minutes away from my home. So now, I am about 2 hours away from home, and I absolutely hate my college.

The school isn’t terrible. I just believe I made the wrong choice and this school is not for me. I made a few friends the first semester, but not any close friends. I’m not very close with with anymore in my dorm either. I spent a lot of time just in my own room. I’ve tried to put myself out there, but some of the people here just get under my skin because of their views on certain things and how they act. I’ve also realized I have very little in common with anyone around me. I brought up the idea of transferring to another school thats pretty close to my home as well. I know some people who go there already, so I would already have some friends at least if I do end up transferring in the fall.

Anyway, I’ve been back at school for 2 days now since the semester started. I’ve barely slept either night. It’s literally 5 in the morning as I write this because I just cannot sleep. I’ve realized my anxiety has gotten to an all time high because I’ve just realized how much I hate the atmosphere and people and just the school in general. I did pretty decent last semester GPA wise. I know I can’t do anything to leave until next fall, as I do plan to transfer. I was just wondering if anyone else experienced a lot of anxiety from attending a school that they very much disliked. If anyone has advice for how to make it through the semester, I’d very much appreciate it.

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Often when someone realizes that they are not happy with a decision or maybe made the wrong decision, especially regarding something that takes a certain amount of commitment like college, there is going to be some anxiety involved, as how you feel about it right now is a personal “crisis.” But this is not all bad, as this level of emotion is what will direct you to take the necessary steps to make a change.

You might find it helpful to refer yourself to the campus counseling center first thing this morning and set up an appointment as soon as possible. It may help you to talk about what is going on for you with a professional to sort out your feelings and to lay out a plan of action. This way you will feel a little more control of your situation and hopefully reduce your anxiety somewhat. The counselor may also help you with other strategies for dealing with your anxiety. Once you get your decisions made, your anxiety may abate.

Do make sure to stay on top of your studies so that you keep your transfer options open, and make sure that you can financially afford the potential change to a different school.

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As long as you can afford it, maybe transferring is a good idea. My boyfriend transferred schools/changed majors, a lot of people do. I also know some of my friends try to enjoy their colleges because they can’t afford to transfer. Honestly, expectations of the college experience is overblown. Sure I had fun and I liked my college. Is it the best four years of my life? No. There are people who get under my skin here as well. But those people are everywhere.

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Visiting the counseling center is a good idea. Otherwise, get busy: classes, clubs, volunteering, maybe pick up a job. Distract yourself.

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  1. Finish your year at the branch campus. Do awesomely.
  2. Check at the main campus what the requirements are for transferring there
  3. Transfer there.