<p>I've found it doesn't matter what you do - join a hundred clubs, talk to more people, invite them places, etc. - finding a true friend really is just a matter of getting lucky. I consider myself sooo fortunate for my best friend. Without her, I'm sure I'd be in your boat. I was brought into her circle of friends and I like them a lot, but would never hang out alone with them. Sadly enough, I guess you could say they are just my acquaintances. I met my best friend because on the first day of school freshman year, my AP World teacher told us to turn our desks around and talk to the person next to us. I never in a million years would have imagined what was to come. However, nothing ever came of it when I actively tried to be better friends with other people. So I guess my point is that you really can't decide you're going to make close friends and do it, but you just might find them when you least expect it, so don't lose hope.</p>
<p>im kinda in the same situation as you. I kno a ton of ppl who talk to me in class and in the halls, but i dont really have anyone that close to me. its ok, college will be a fresh start where u wont see anyone from high school. If u cant make a true friend there, i would be concerned lol</p>
<p>i know exactly how you feel. I have one close friend and there are other people that i talk to during class and stuff but i just never hang out with anyone else except for this one person. i guess it's just hard to be so shy and when i think of why i feel so lonely i guess that's really reason...... but after what my friend told me the other day i realize now that i have to get over this shyness because this is not how i want to be in college.... we have to be brave and do more then talk to people... the best way to start is to invite those people that you talk to in class and in the halls to your party... i guess sometimes people are waiting for us shy people to do the inviting if that makes any sense...</p>
<p>get a 2400 on SATs.</p>
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However I concededly don't like any of my closests friends, except 1, (there's 3). In fact, I think the other two are annoying, and, well, really immature. I really don't like them at all. I won't miss them when I graduate and I won't talk to them ever again.
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AHAHAHA! That made me laugh 2 times.... XD</p>
<p>I have a friend like that. But I still talk to her sometimes.</p>
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get a 2400 on SATs.
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How does that help?</p>
<p>I have 5 or 6 really good friends in HS. And I think 2 of them are my bestest friends. How I got that was
a) studying thing I told you about
b) spending a lot of time with them (that's how the studying thing works partially)
c) Opening up wwaaayy open to them
d) Being compatible from the get go.</p>
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I'll be your friend. Got AIM?
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Haha</p>
<p>Anyway, im not the best person to be giving advice, as I really only have two close friends, but otherwise I'm in the same position as you. Maybe just ask the people during school if they want to see a movie/hangout, or hold a party yourself and invite all of these people, for all you know they feel the same way you do, as if they have no real friends..</p>
<p>Oh man. OP, when I read your post, I felt as if I was talking! I'll be your friend. =] Facebook me or something.</p>
<p>close friends are really really hard to come by. i mean, the people who really understand you and who you know will be there for you and you can trust. i think most friendships in highschool are more like acquaintances, theres no one you're exceptionally close to. a lot of people are probably in your same situation. honestly if i just had the acquaintances it would make me feel even more lonely than if i had no friends at all. i mean sometimes you're just with them and you think 'why am i even here? would they even notice if i was gone?'</p>
<p>anyway, if you want friends, you should find a few people who you would like to be friends with. then gradually keep talking to them more. the easiest way to do this is ask questions. seriously, pretend you're confused about something and ask them for help. #1 it will open the door for that question to lead to a broader topic. #2 they'll feel kind of flattered you look to them for answers. maybe smile more? people don't like to be around depressedpeople. also people judge on appearances too so if you have a kind of gross wardrobe you could update it? </p>
<p>actually, why not go to the loner people and talk to them? i bet a lot of them want friends they're just too shy. they might even get kind of clingy to you because you're the only friend they have. or just talk to that quiet person in your class, if you're persistent they'll probably open up to you unless they truly like being alone.</p>
<p>or you could get a boyfriend/girlfriend and start hanging out with their group of friends.</p>
<p>well, those are my ideas.</p>
<p>take the effort to go out there and socialize
dont wait for neone to come to u
u cant just stand there and be like "im here come get me"
take the time to meet those who share the same interests as u
yeah close friends r hard to come by but theyre there</p>
<p>YOU must talk to people first! Go to parties, clubs and whenever someone offers you to hang out with them, hang out! Don't be shy, that's the key.</p>
<p>I certainly am not popular in HS, but I do have 4 close friends in school, which is the most important. I know people who talk to EVERYONE but they probably have only one close friend. So which is better?</p>