My second semester of college is nearly over and I’ve gone out about 3 times. I enjoy going to parties, I think it’s fun and it’s what I wanted coming into college.
My friends, however, do not enjoy partying. In fact, they don’t enjoy doing anything at all on the weekends, they just want to stay in and do homework. I respect their decisions but I’m so bored.
The obvious answer is “make new friends and join a club” but since the semester is halfway over there’s not much I can do. I’m going to make changes when fall semester begins but as of right now I’m kinda stuck.
I just want to have a fun college experience and as of right now it’s been sort of boring. Any advice would be appreciated. Thank you so much!
Eventually, and I just mean at some point in your life, you will have to learn how to find things that make you happy, regardless of your friends. There may be plenty of times even after college when you don’t have enough or the right friends, and you’re not going to want to be overly reliant on others. Relationships are important, and having a few or many close friends with whom you enjoy doing stuff is important, BUT being able to do the things you want to do on your own will be important too. Start now. Get out there, and find the parties and the things to do. Go alone if it’s safe. Just tell your roommates where you’re going and when you expect to be back.
Aside from that I would just suggest a hobby, preferably a physical one - running, hiking, biking - that will give you something to focus on alone and/or allow you to maybe meet others who enjoy the same. Probably healthier than partying anyway. Finally, how about a job? At this point, part of what you need is not just fun, but something that has you busy so you’re not too bored. Oh, and study.
Why is it too late? Keep working to expand upon your base of friends. You can meet new people all the time in class, through activities etc. You can hold on to the friends you have and hopefully find others who are more active socially.
Parties are super fun, and I’m in the same boat as you except I like to party and my boyfriend doesn’t which sometimes makes it difficult to go out. My advice is to go out even if your friends don’t. You may feel lonely at first, but I’m sure you will meet new people at these parties because that’s why most people go! Also, it’s never too late in the semester to make friends! I’m a sophomore in college and I just made a lot of new friends through a club I’m helping start halfway through the semester. Talk to people on your hall, join clubs, talk to people in class. You will find your party friends.
Finally, how about a job? At this point, part of what you need is not just fun, but something that has you busy so you’re not too bored. Oh, and study.