<p>Okay, so its my first weekend and college, I met a group of people and they wanted to go to a frat party, but I wasn't up for it, I don't really, nor have I ever partied. Is this being lame?</p>
<p>You need to start saying yes, or people will stop asking you to join them for stuff.
So you go with them and after 30 minutes you leave if you want, no biggie.
Be a joiner not a loner.</p>
<p>well the other thing is its off campus, in a not great city, so leaving alone isn’t safe, and I don’t know where I am</p>
<p>It’s not lame. Just because you didn’t go to a frat party the first weekend doesn’t mean that you’re going to be miserable and friendless the next 4 years. (Though hopefully you haven’t chosen a bigtime party school, if you knew ahead how little that interests you!) Everybody has their own niche, and if off-campus frat parties in a sketchy part of town isn’t yours, don’t feel pressured into pretending it is. But definitely try and join things. If you like the people who invited you, invite them to do something else. If somebody invites you to something that you’re okay with, go along and meet people even if you’re not 110% fascinated by the activity. Also try joining a club/sports/other activities, and get an on-campus job if you can.</p>
<p>you can go and not drink, also. ease yourself into college life</p>
<p>You don’t have to go if you don’t want to nor is it lame not to.</p>
<p>It’s fine to not go. You don’t want to pretend to be into something you’re not. Be yourself and you’ll find friends who are similar to you.</p>
<p>What’s a party? Is that before or after physics?</p>
<p>I’ll disagree, it is lame, however since you don’t seem to ever party, I guess you don’t know what your missing out on and you’re probably content with having a smaller base of friends. So it’s probably not a huge deal for you personally that you rejected it.</p>
<p>^ oh snap! </p>
<p>it’s not lame but i would suggest you get out to parties more often more to meet people than anything else. but i agree with you that going to a party in a sketchy part of town isn’t the best idea.</p>
<p>Partying partying (yeah!)
Partying partying (yeah!)
Fun fun fun fun looking forward to the weekend</p>
<p>I don’t understand people who second guess decisions that they make on an internet college forum…
Obviously you decided not to go, so why are you worrying about it? If you’re concerned it will affect how those people see you, go with them the next time they invite you to something.
You said you don’t like to party and declined an invitation to a party… I don’t see why you need reassurance from a bunch of anonymous people.</p>
<p>^ Because they are insecure as hell</p>
<p>If you don’t want to go, then it’s not lame not to go. However, realize that if you continually turn down invitations, you will not be invited out with these people anymore even if they’re doing non-party things. That’s how it always worked for me. My friends ended up being people that rarely partied, even though I didn’t mind being friends with people who partied and just sitting out when they went, mainly because of this. So if you really want to be friends with these people, I might just go and make the best of it.</p>
<p>Yeah, I’d say a lot of times you make friends through going to parties together (pregaming, etc if that’s what you’re into) and then you start hanging out more beyond just partying. So if you like these people and want to be friends with them, I suggest you go to the parties. You don’t have to drink or anything.</p>
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This .</p>
<p>Why not go? Isn’t college all about breaking out of your comfort zone?</p>