<p>Hi,
First, let me start off by saying I'm sure I got rejected from the schools I applied to.
I applied to Andover, Exeter, Deerfield, St. Paul's.
My stats were actually really good, but I am from South Korea, so I have 80 to 1 chance.
Plus, I cannot compete with other Korean students.
So, I want to ask: How can I prepare myself for the rejection letters?
How should I tell my parents?
And what do rejection letters look like?
Have anyone suffered serious shock(no joke)?
How should I deal with rejections?</p>
<p>Thanks. And I'm serious about these questions.</p>
<p>First of all, think positively! Don’t be so down on yourself, everyone has a chance. There are a couple threads already about exactly what rejection letters say. If you do get rejected, that’s okay. Like benevolent said, your parents are proud of you whatever happens, just tell them. It’ll be disappointing, but you can move on and apply again if you want to. Don’t let yourself think that if you get rejected it’s because you aren’t smart and great and don’t have great grades and activities or anything like that. Admissions is really competitve, there are tons of amazing kids that apply, and they can’t accept every single amazing person that applies because there are just so many of them. Good luck!</p>
<p>If you think you have no chance… Then you must really have no chance. If you are that willing to stop looking at your positive qualities and admiring them… Then you have been defeated. </p>
<p>Realize that no one is really completely certain of their acceptance… No student could possible be universally accepted by every educational institution. </p>
<p>Shake it off and realize-
They arn’t looking for the best, they are looking for people to fit a need. Getting accepted is not a universal seal of approval, simply an accomplishment. You don’t need their approval to succeed. You don’t need them to succeed. They would be honored to take you.</p>
<p>Thanks everyone. I want to make clear though… my stats were pretty good.
I got 2310 (99 percentile) on my SSAT, and got all A’s and did well in other things.
But I’m competing against others, and I read of all these stories from applicants from my country with GLOWING APPLICATIONS. I just don’t have a chance against them.</p>
<p>Leesh I was waitlisted at all the schools I applied to last year so I hope I can share with you some kind of perspective… Well I didn’t like going to my current school, there was sth wrong abt it I don’t know, so when I received the waitlisting letters I was like ‘OMG How am I going to survive the next 2 years here? My life is so miserable!’. To make matter worse, I come from a country where there are lots of people applying out too, but most of them use their parents’ money to seek for the help from some kind of service to get into bs. We couldn’t afford it, but I knew I did all my best. Those kids got in, and it was a very big shock to me but I knew I had to overcome it somehow. It took a long time to recover but now, whenever I looked back at that time I don’t ever regret applying last year. Because of it I knew what I like and dislike, what I’m good at and what I’m bad at, how to improve my weaknesses and to make good of my strengths… If it hadn’t been for the application process I wouldn’t have realized there are so many special things I love about myself. So, if I still get some kind of WL or Rejection this year then it’s okay for me - maybe it’s because I’m not a fit for those schools, not because I’m not special or good enough you know. I also started to regard coping with my current school as a challenge for me and trust me, it’s worth it. And you know what, I think you should stop talking about that Rejection thing and start digging deep into yourself and appreciating it - everyone is so special don’t you see it?</p>
<p>O ok…well sorry that your gunna get rejected. Good luck handling it. Break the news to your parents before you open the letters so they’re ready.</p>
<p>But I’m competing against others, and I read of all these stories from applicants from my country with GLOWING APPLICATIONS. I just don’t have a chance against them.</p>
<p>^ Are you kidding me? I haven’t seen a single applicant post their stats from Korea yet. Maybe a Korean, but not a person FROM Korea. Or you could include the occasional science/math competition winning candidates, but really there haven’t been many chances threads at all by students from Korea.</p>
<p>I hate people who lie. You’re supposed to say “I THINK I’m GOING to get rejected by my schools” not “I AM getting rejected.”</p>
<p>But I’m competing against others, and I read of all these stories from applicants from my country with GLOWING APPLICATIONS. I just don’t have a chance against them.</p>
<p>^ Are you kidding me? I haven’t seen a single applicant post their stats from Korea yet. Maybe a Korean, but not a person FROM Korea. Or you could include the occasional science/math competition winning candidates, but really there haven’t been many chances threads at all by students from Korea.</p>
<p>I hate people who lie. You’re supposed to say “I THINK I’m GOING to get rejected by my schools” not “I AM getting rejected.”</p>
<p>what’s with all the harshness. ccers need to be more nicer to others. </p>
<p>basically, i agree with what binh said. that was a really great response. :)</p>
<p>there are a lot of applicants from korea westcoast, tons. and if the applicant is from korea, the op will have to compete with them as well. the op is competing with everyone, not just those who currently live in korea. and how is the op lying?</p>
<p>thegreatescape, I understand there are a lot of applicants from korea. I’m one of them.</p>
<p>I just dislike the idea that the OP is already disregarding the fact that they may have gotten in someplace. It seems pointless that they are being so self-critical. No, scratch that. I meant self critical on an online forum. I understand if one is nervous for their scores and believes they got rejected everywhere. But really? Preparing how to tell their parents they got rejected everywhere? That seems a bit of a stretch.</p>
<p>Then again I apologize for the last bit on “lying.” I thought the OP said “I got rejected by SPS, Deerfield, etc”</p>
<p>i’m sure everyone feels different ways about boarding school acceptances/rejections on march 10th. some will be nervous, others will be excited, some will think they’re already rejected, and so on. the op has probably seen some of the “GLOWING APPLICATIONS” on here and has completely lost hope. i also think that some stats showed that something under 5% of koreans got accepted. although being a bit over self critical, not giving themself any hope, the op is being a realist. the op could get rejected straight across the board, or be accepted. no one knows.</p>
<p>to the op- my advice is to stay off cc, lol. i find that cc brings up my stress level of not getting in because everyone here is so smart and well rounded. :P</p>
<p>Get a knife, or perhaps a cyanide capsule… no jk</p>
<p>I was rejected last year, and tbh, it was a good experience. For a while, I felt very… disappointed, though the process prompted me to do some soul-searching, resulting in a better me, in terms of maturity, etc.</p>
<p>Leesh, hon? Please. I mean, I know you’re worried because like the kids in Korea study like they’re possessed or something, but still, you live in the US right now, right? I live in Virginia, and even though I’m from Korea, I’m a Green Card resident here, which is good because then I won’t be considered an international student. Are you here with a Visa, or were you born here? Because I know some Korean people fly to America to have their children become a citizen, and then move back to Korea. (I know. It’s weird.) It’s probably going to be harder if you’re here on a student Visa or something though, because then you’ll be compared with all the people living in Korea.</p>
<p>I just read your Chance thread, and seriously, I think you have just as much of a chance as most of us do. But, since it seems like you really do think you’re going to rejected… Tell yourself you WILL be rejected. Which you’re already doing. That way, if you do get rejected, you’ll have prepared yourself for it before, and if you’re accepted, you’ll be pleasantly surprised. And about your parents… Are they like the general stereotypical Korean parents? Mine don’t want me to go off to boarding school, but if yours actually do and will get all disappointed if you don’t get in, just start sobbing uncontrollably. I think they’ll get the message, and if they’re nice, they’ll probably pity you and not give you any crap xD</p>
<p>Some wise words I have cherished over the years…when one door closes, another one opens…if you have done your best in being an active participant in setting your goals, focus on what you can change, what is in your control…and then redefine your goals if needed and look for the open door so as not to miss the next opportunity while mourning the past…</p>
<p>thingslost! He wasn’t fishing for compiments. I hate it when you say that. If you don’t have anything positive or constructive to say, just don’t say it!</p>
And you know what, I think you should stop talking about that Rejection thing and start digging deep into yourself and appreciating it - everyone is so special don’t you see it?</p>
ccers need to be more nicer to others. </p>