<p>My girlfriend is going to a school on the quarter system. I am choosing between a quarter system school that is a four hour flight from her and a semester system school that is a 2 hour flight. With the semester choice we'd have to just make time to visit each other, and then wait for summer because the breaks dont really match during the school year. With the quarter choice, our summers and other breaks would match exactly, but it would be harder to visit due to the longer flight. We are going to try to make it work no matter what, but which optio would be easier?</p>
<p>the option that involves you going to the school that you prefer.</p>
<p>ha, sounds easy but I also cannot decide between the schools</p>
<p>in making your decision, assume you guys will break up some time in the first month of school.</p>
<p>because you will.</p>
<p>That was cold and unnecessary. If you are determined to make it work, go to the place that makes you happiest and remove this as a deciding factor…as for which will be easiest-probably the school where you will have the same breaks, but please by no means base your decision on this question.</p>
<p>once you get on an airplane an extra two hours doesn’t really make much difference…although i suppose there would be a difference in cost.</p>
<p>but you can make it work if you want to, i know plenty of people who are in succesful long distance relationships from high school and are still together.</p>
<p>I’ve observed that attractive people have a harder time maintaining long-distance relationships because they face more temptations.</p>
<p>In choosing schools, choose the school that fits best for you that means factor in student culture, money, campus, parents, quality of teaching, even ranking ordered by you priorities. Then if all of that and then some others I forgot to mention are equal, factor in your girlfriend. Never choose a school just because of a girl, your girl might be important, your education, your life, and your future together is even greater. </p>
<p>As for your chances in a long distant relationship, to be honest, my advice would be to break up. I can appeal to many argument that you probably have head before, though my main argument is probably one you have not which is from Aristotle. A relationship or friendship requires some kind of real presence in each other lives. Habits of being together must exist, else you don’t really have a relationship, just a habit of seperation and denying oneself of meeting an equally filling relationship (or hook-ups if you want that) that can spend time together. If it survives college and finally reunited, essentially you still be starting over as over as there is no habits or to say better, a life of being together. </p>
<p>Anyways, that if we are to assume it even survivies. The only statistic I remember is one from a teacher that says August is a big break up month (obviously) where most ends there. The remainder ends by Thanksgiving (turkey drop). Then others end along the way. Making only a tiny fraction ever to survive college (then of course many break up during the reunion realizing that it is no longer the same). </p>
<p>Though what I said was discouraging, this does not mean you shouldn’t give it a try. Better of fall in exhaustion than just drawing a line saying “I can’t do it” though that doesn’t mean you should sacrafice yourself either. </p>
<p>So in choosing what school, consider everything else first, than if that is not enough, then you can throw in distance to you girlfriend. As far your relationship, the odds are really stacked against you, doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try, but acknowledge in your mind of the challenge before you make that decision.</p>
<p>made my decision, thanks everyone</p>
<p>I’ve never seen one work, good luck.</p>
<p>and i suppose the relatively small number of cases you’ve observed makes it a rule? if he wants to try it let him. who cares. its not like it even matters to anyone but the two people involved anyway.</p>
<p>Just break it off. You’re probably going to end up having sex with an attractive co-ed, video tape it, and accidently send the tape to your girlfriend.
Then you and 3 friends are going to go on a road trip to your girlfriend’s college to get the tape back. On the way, the car you started out with will probably explode, and one of your friends will steal a school bus. Another one of your friends will lose his virginity in an all-black fraternity.
When you get there, you might get the tape back, but you’re going to end it anyway.
So save all the trouble and just end it now.
=D</p>
<p>We eagerly await your breakup thread in a few months.</p>
<p>bigb99… what movie is that?</p>
<p>Road Trip. Hilarious movie!</p>
<p>scotty doesnt know.. ohh scotty doesn’t know</p>
<p>Most regular relationships don’t work out either…but no one ever tells you “don’t get involved with someone because the odds are, you’re gonna eventually break up.” </p>
<p>I’m in a long distance relationship…but I’m transferring.</p>
<p>@Burgler09… I think you’re mixing up movies. “Scotty doesn’t know” is from Eurotrip.</p>
<p>oh you said road trip.. doh I seriously read your post as eurotrip</p>
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<p>Might be harsh, but it’s true.</p>
<p>Maybe not necessarily within a month, but almost definitely within the first few months.</p>
<p>I know a few who lasted past the first few months, but things were really strained by that point; they stayed in the relationship because they felt they had to or because they didn’t think they’d find someone else. Eventually, they did break up, all within the first year.</p>