I Need Some Roomie Advice. Are Girl/Guy Situations Different Than Girl/Girl?

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<p>A little advice....</p>

<p>I needed a place to stay quickly. My off campus housing fell through & I was basically homeless. My boyfriend suggested his guy friend. He completely trusts him and they have been friends since grade school.</p>

<p>I move in & everything goes really well. He<code>s a great guy & we get along great. I</code>ve never lived with a guy before and I thought it would be weird but its not. Its like living with one of my brothers. So everything is going great AND THEN...</p>

<p>He starts texting this girl & dating her. I<code>m thinking thats cool. I</code>ve got my guy & now he<code>s dating someone too. BUT HERE</code>S THE THING...</p>

<p>He<code>s never had a room mate before. He</code>s used to having the place to himself and he invited her over for a date. I had no clue & have come home twice to her being in the condo. Thats really no big deal I just wish he would have said something so I knew what I was coming home too. Like maybe sent me a text & said "yo. date tonight." and I would have known to maybe make plans or be extra productive cleaning my room. I just think thats the respectable thing to do. I figure no biggie I`ll just talk to him later about it and I make plans to go out. WELL THEN...

I come home at 3 am and shes was still in the condo and has been in the condo for 3 DAYS STRAIGHT. Shes even managed to move in a coffee mug and make her self quite comfortable.

My whole thing is that not once has he ever spoken to me and let me know whats going on. Im completely ignored. I have no clue if shes just staying the weekend or moving in or what. Its not a huge condo and its just really akward. I tried to strike up conversations but she never really responds and kinda ignores me. Its just silence whenever I walk into the room. I feel really outta place.

I dont know how to feel about it. Im used to living with girls and when their guys come over Im cool with it and Im cool with her but its the whole not saying anything to me part that really bothers me. Maybe its because Im a girl and his room mate or does it even matter? Should it be any different? When I was living with girls it was easy to talk to the guys but she`s just not interested in even being polite.</p>

<p>How would you feel or think in this situation? I know I need to talk to him but what`s the best way to do it? Are guy/girl situations different than girl/girl situations?</p>

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<p>He should have mentioned it to you at the begining. Like “my girlfriend comes here occassionally and sometimes spends the night. Just to let you know”. </p>

<p>However, he probably isn’t even aware that he needs to inform you. So just let that slip pass, for now.</p>

<p>Now, if his girlfriends act a bit frosty, you are probably pretty and she’ll therefore feel insecure.</p>

<p>So, IMO, whenever you see her, give here a cheery look and ask her how its going. If she looks sour, crack a nice good natured joke about her looking dull. Like “you look a bit quiet today Amy. i hope all is going well”. Its your task to disarm her and make her your friend she can trust alone with her BF.</p>

<p>If that similar type of gesture doesn’t work well by the 3rd time, start looking for a new roomate.</p>

<p>I had a friend who, years ago, had a male roomate and they got along so fine, they are great friends today.</p>