<p>Hey, I'm a freshman in college and I have a serious problem with my roommate.</p>
<p>(Background information -- we've gone out and partied in the past.) One Saturday night, I casually asked him if he was going out for the night (note that I didn't even suggest that we go out together; however, I was kind of hinting that we go out and hit up a party together or with a group). He said that he was going to a private birthday. Anyways, I call up my friends and we head off campus to find a party. On the way there... my group of friends ran into with his group of friends (apparently, some kids in my group knew kids in his crew). So we ended going together as one big group. We ended up going to a random apartment party for the night. This wasn't a "private birthday" party as he had said. In fact, the guy, whose "birthday" it was, was actually in our group attending the same party. Anyways, we partied and I got drunk (although I remember every single detail of it). I'm just using "getting drunk" as an excuse to not remember him lying to me and to repress this awkward confrontation.</p>
<p>I feel that my roommate has betrayed me and that he has lost my truth forever. I will never believe a word that comes out of his mouth. If he didn't want to go out with me, then just say it. Be like -- "I like I'm going to kick it with my boys from high school tonight" or something like that. Don't lie to me...</p>
<p>It sounds like he probably was out with the “private birthday party”, then they decided to go to a bigger party with you guys… Doesn’t sound like anything majorly wrong.</p>
<p>THIS is what counts as supreme betrayal and you’re never ever going to trust anything he says again? You said you didn’t even directly ask him to hang out with you, just hinted that you might like to do something. </p>
<p>His friends might have told him, “hey, we’re going to someone’s birthday” or something. There might have been a miscommunication. There may have been plans that got changed or misunderstood. Stuff happens. It doesn’t make it a “serious problem” with your roommate.</p>
<p>He probably didn’t know you were going as well. If someone asked me if I was going to a party and I wasnt 100% sure it was the same one, I would probably have done the same thing.</p>
<p>lol… I don’t give a crap to be honest, but there’s a thing called respect. Don’t lie to me. I mean… this is suppose to be someone I trust right? Someone that I leave money and valuables around near? Someone whom I share a room with?</p>
<p>You don’t need to be friends with your roommate, or respect him, or even trust him (in most situations).</p>
<p>Say he didn’t want to go out with you – he probably felt it would be better to cover up his desire to go with another group than to state, “Man, I think you’re kind of lame. So you’re not invited with me. Sorry.”</p>
<p>There is a chance he is just cowardly, but I find the above situation far more likely. Let it drop, and please don’t equate this situation with stealing family heirlooms, in the same way than cheating husbands steal from their companies or their wives (one type of lie doesn’t mean another is also occurring…).</p>
<p>Wow… dis thread is funny. Dude it is NOT THAT SERIOUS! If you get this mad for something this small, you might have a hard time making it through college-and through life-peacefully. Trust me, there are worst things your roomate-or anybody-could have done. Just get over it and move on for own sake.</p>
<p>If it’s serious, you have problems. You used “crew” to describe a group of friends. </p>
<p>Many times people say a party is invite only, and then it turns into a free for all. He was probably told it was private, or that his friend only wanted to invite his own friends out for his birthday. Get the **** over it.</p>