<p>I have a serious issue with my roommate. He lied to me back in September, and I'm still upset and holding a grudge against him. I'm pretty distant from him as a result. There's a huge disconnect in our relationship. I don't know if I should bring it up or not... I don't even acknowledge his presence sometimes. </p>
<p>I'm the type of person that if I'm your friend, I will trust you 100% and have your back, but if you cross me in anyway, you won't be my friend anymore and I'll be completely indifferent to whatever happens to you.</p>
<p>It's gotten to the point where I know I won't help him if he gets jumped. Call me cold, but he's already broken my trust, and I no longer consider him a friend. He's just like a being that happens to live in the same room as me. </p>
<p>(Background information -- we've gone out and partied in the past.) One Saturday night, I casually asked him if he was going out for the night (note that I didn't even suggest that we go out together; however, I was kind of hinting that we go out and hit up a party together or with a group). He said that he was going to a private birthday party. He hesitated and drew blank for a couple of seconds so I already knew he was making something up and lying, but I wasn't going to draw any conclusions.</p>
<p>Anyways, I call up my some of my other friends and we head off campus to find a party. On the way there... my group of friends ran into with his group of friends (apparently, some kids in my group knew kids in his crew). So we ended going together as one big group. We ended up party hopping before going to a random apartment party for the night. This wasn't a "private birthday" party as he had said. In fact, the guy, whose "birthday" it was supposedly, was actually in our group attending the same party. Anyways, we partied and I got drunk (although I remember every single detail of it). I'm just using "getting drunk" as an excuse to not remember him lying to me and to repress this awkward confrontation.</p>
<p>I feel that my roommate has betrayed me and that he has lost my trust forever. I will never believe a word that comes out of his mouth. If he didn't want to go out with me, then just say it. Be like -- "I like I'm going to kick it with my boys from high school tonight" or something like that. Don't lie to me...</p>
<p>maybe he wasn’t really that good friends with the people he went out with. and if your not that good of friends yet it I don’t think you really have a right to invite people to go along with the group your not really good friends with.</p>
<p>your only hurting yourself with this petty grudge of yours.</p>
<p>Yeah really, get over it. If thats all it takes for you to completely loath someone then you are probably in for some rude awakenings. He just didn’t want to go out with you and didn’t want to hurt your feelings about it, so he lied. Im sure it was nothing personal, but you obviously made it so.</p>
<p>Wow. Grow up dude. Not a big deal. I even do that to some of my friends sometimes if I don’t know if I want to go out with them or not. No big thing. You also don’t know if he was lying, plans get changed.</p>
<p>Life’s too short and consider all the energy you are wasting by staying angry with him. Just be roommates and if you don’t want to hang with him socially you don’t have to. Not worth even venting here about it!</p>
<p>1) You sound like a 13 year old girl, “OMG, he totally broke my trust and now I can’t believe a word that comes out of his mouth, like ever again.”</p>
<p>2) Stop being a pussy, and get over it. Not everyone will like you, and not everyone will want to be your friend. I don’t see why anyone would, judging by your complete overreaction.</p>
<p>3) I’ve heard my 5th grade sister come home with borderline the same drama that you’re going on about.</p>
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<p>Seriously, this is a ridiculously minor incident. He lied to you once about a party, 6 months ago, and now you “wouldn’t help him if he was jumped” - i.e. if his life was in danger?</p>
<p>I’m kind of glad you’re not my friend.</p>
<p>Seriously - get over it. You have some serious issues if you truly think this is as big of a deal as you’re making it out to be.</p>
<p>I’m surprised by the responses… someone lies to you in front of your face… and none of you guys take it personal and to heart? I’m perfectly secure with myself. I can handle someone rejecting me. I just hate being lied to. Our relationship just feels fake. I can’t help but thing everything that comes out of his mouth is fake.</p>