<p>I'm a freshman right now. I go to a college about 2 hours away from home. I have a car, so I've been going home about an average of once every 3 weeks. </p>
<p>Initially, this made sense to me. I didn't have many friends here, so going home would make a better weekend than just sitting around. But now, I've made a lot of good friends, have gone out to parties with people, have my roommates lined up for next year, and am having a great time along with getting a great education. But, I've kept up my once every 3ish weeks thing going because I love my family and home and have a few really close friends nearby.</p>
<p>I'm really torn because I like going home, but I love staying here too. I feel like I'm missing out either way. Is how I'm feeling and doing normal?</p>
<p>I’m a bloody junior and still visit home pretty often. 3 weeks ain’t that bad at all. It’s your family! They’re the ones who’d stand by you if you committed cold-blooded murder. I don’t think 3 weeks is that bad at all and hey if you think you’re spending too much time there then limit it to just a day trip rather than staying the weekend or overnight.</p>
<p>You spend 3 weeks at school and then go home for the weekend. So you spend roughly 3 out of 21 days at home and the other 18 at school which means you spend about a seventh of your time (less if you aren’t going home for 3 days) with the people who love you, care about you, raised you and are likely paying your college tuition and you worry that your missing something at school?</p>
<p>And as MortalSoil pointed out, those are the people that are always going to stick with you. It’s worth it to put the time into those relationships.</p>
<p>Tomorrow is Valentines day…send a copy of your post to your folks.</p>
<p>There are so many college age students who think college is the time to go away to school and “grow up.” Personally I think growing up is the realization that you love and respect all of the people who love you and support you. You sound like a wonderful young adult.</p>
<p>I life an hour and forty-five minutes away. I got home about once a month or so. It’s not weird. I mean, if you want to visit your family and you CAN, why not?</p>
<p>There’s a lot of people who go home every couple weeks if they live close enough.</p>
<p>I don’t, because it’s an 8 hour drive and I don’t even have a car here, and getting on a plane to go home for just a weekend doesn’t make any sense. I go home for Thanksgiving, Christmas, spring break, and our week break in between spring semester and May Term. But I know plenty of people here who do go home every 2-3 weeks because they only live 1-3 hours away.</p>
<p>Once every 3 weeks isn’t even that often. I go to a school where almost everyone lives in the city about 2 hours away, and the majority of people go home multiple times a month.</p>