<p>Hi!
i am currently a sophomore transfer student at a new school that is about 45 mins away from home. So far I am really enjoying my time here. I am very friendly and have made friends in classes or just from walking around campus. I do well in my classes and complete homework on time. I am not a "loner", but I do enjoy time alone. However, when it comes to the weekends I tend to go home. The first weekend I had to do an emergency babysitting session. the next weekend i came home to get some rest. and this upcoming weekend i need to come home to watch my dog while my parents are away. since my mom and dad refuse to pay someone when i can do it for free. personally i love being at home and i know over time it will change and i won't want to go home. however, is this normal? i think the main reason i feel "guilty" coming home is because i miss the weekend craziness but i am not one to drink,party or go crazy like my roommate and floor mates do. i feel like i am missing out on bonding with them but i don't like what they like. and every morning i wake up to photos on my instagram or Facebook feed of what happened the night before and i feel left out or like a loser for not wanting to do it. i also feel like they probably judge me for going home even though i usually have reasons for going home. my mom says that its fine and to not worry about what they think and eventually i will find people who love watching disney movies, doing crafts, attending the school sponsored activities or just chilling like myself. and i agree but i was just wondering if i am normal? sorry i just really needed to vent.</p>
<p>My friends in college went home for weekends all the time - my roommate last year (off campus apartment) still stayed with her parents on weekends a lot. Any time spent with parents is time you’re not paying for your own food/toilet paper/whatever! So yes, I’d say it’s normal.</p>
<p>thank you! 
much appreciated</p>
<p>Also, P.S., my friends and I all love watching Disney movies and playing kid games and building things out of popsicle sticks etc.; we just had a sleepover and watched Wreck-It Ralph last night and we’re all 23 years old, lol. I met my two roommates whom I lived with for 3+ years because I heard Kingdom Hearts music down the hall and ran over and stuck my head in their door and went “ARE YOU GUYS PLAYING KINGDOM HEARTS?!” like a loser. There are plenty of childish dorks in college. 
I’m sure you’ll find some eventually. My friends and I went out and partied SOME in college, but certainly not every weekend, and there were tons of people like us. (Personally I believe more intelligent people tend to want to do more interesting things with their time than get drunk and dance).</p>
<p>Why not plan a weekend road trip to the beach or mountains (or whatever fun place is near your college) with yoir roommates? That way you can all enjoy time together without getting trashed. Or make some on-campus plans yourself to go see a band or sports event or whatever, and invite them along. I do think it’s important to spend some weekend time with your roommates if you want to be friends with them. </p>
<p>My sister spent most of her weekends at home during college bc of a boyfriend. She now regrets all the fun stuff she missed out on. You will never have such easy and cheap access to sports events, theater, clubs, social activities, and people your own age as you do now. Take advantage of it. Maybe go home one weekend a month?
Home may be your comfort zone, but if you stretch a little, you may find it’s worth it.</p>
<p>thanks for all the advice. i am trying to push myself into staying and i am putting myself out there so to speak. like i will sit in the student center when doing homework just so i am around people and i joined a couple of clubs hoping to meet new people. i think when i have the time to dwell things. that is when the homesickness waves hit me the most. i usually combat this feeling by trying to occupy myself with other things such as TV, hw, a book or chatting with people. the worst is at night before i sleep because my brain never shuts up. like today when my dad dropped me off i got all panicked and upset , it doesn’t help that i have been diagnosed with depression,ADHD, and anxiety disorder. so it makes it a lot more difficult for me. any other tips?</p>
<p>You aren’t going to find the people that do things you like to do during weekends if you are always away on weekends. Trust me, not everyone is partying, but you aren’t there to experience anything different. You need to plan a couple weekends when you DO NOT go home. Your parents will have to find other people to use for whatever, because you need to establish a weekend life on campus for a while. I used to be too busy with papers to write, etc, to bother going home, and I only lived 20 mins from my parents during college. Life gets hectic fast…while it’s still a bit relaxing, you need to meet other people who relax the way you do!</p>
<p>Maybe stop by campus counseling and talk to someone about your homesickness and anxiety. That’s what they’re there for, and it’s usually free. Might make you feel more supported during this transition. I think your feelings are very normal, but it might help you feel better to talk to a counselor who has seen plenty of students thru this same transition.</p>
<p>I go home every weekend and yeah I know other people on my floor do stuff without me there but I feel like it’s just two days away from people and I have 5 other days to hang out with them. Maybe that’s just me.
I mean, when I think about in high school, my friends and I were still good friends even if we don’t see each other on a daily basis and hung out all the time.</p>
<p>Weekend life at college for me isn’t too exciting because I don’t party & drink either. I just go with my same friends and play ball, games, watch football, etc. It’s about relaxing, unless I have to catch up on HW. You shouldn’t go home every weekend, but maybe like every 4 or more is a good amount. It all depends on your situation. </p>
<p>I mean, I’m 10 hours away from home, and I really wish I could have the chance to go home every weekend, but I can only go home during big breaks (Christmas, Spring, Summer). Don’t regret missing out on what your friends do during the weekend, you see them for the rest of the week haha.</p>
<p>thanks for the all the advice :)</p>