I want to drop out

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<p>^^ i assumed english was this person’s second (or even third) language. </p>

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<p>^^^ First, I’m always leery of “diagnosis by blog”, but I’m not sure executive function disability applies in any case. The OP is perfectly capable with business transactions that he feels are important. Just not school.</p>

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<p>Yep, if you get A’s on tests and Fs on homework, I’d say you’re a smart guy with compliance issues. The payoff is not big enough for you to get the homework in. (if it was “Here’s a million dollars for a sheet of history short answers” then you could do the homework in a timely fashion). </p>

<p>Please, please don’t beat yourself up for not fitting the academic model. A lot of people do just great in the academic cocoon and then are bewildered by the real world. My heart aches for the new graduate who gets taken to the cleaners by the jerk boss or the unscrupulous car dealer. The kid is playing by the rules and is stunned to find that the rest of the world. . . doesn’t care once you are two feet off campus. </p>

<p>So, you don’t fit with the “do the homework, get a grade” path. There are colleges that don’t emphasize that traditional path (Evergreen College here in Olympia is one. There are many others). </p>

<p>Was it Ben Franklin who said “only an idiot expects a different outcome to the same choices?” Don’t go back to the same path that did not work well before. Please think about those joys and talents and use them. The college degree can still happen – but on your terms – not someone elses.</p>

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<p>You may want to explore why you are self-sabotaging so much. This requires insight which a professional therapist can help you with. Time management problems, including procrastination, often arise from underlying problems that need to be addressed before efficiency strategies can be effective.</p>

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<p>OP, I was once in a fairly similar situation to the one you’re in now. </p>

<p>I did take a break of several years from school. What I found helped the most when I returned to school was that I’d let go of my regrets and my guilt from my previous failures. Eventually I realized that guilt over failing in Semester A was a large part of the reason I failed in Semester B. It was like an anchor pulling me down. OP, do you think a lot about your academic failures? Do you constantly feel guilty? If so, deal with that first before you do anything else.</p>

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<p>Naturally, you got it right. Guilt, guilt , guilt is one major problem for me. I sometimes feel so guilty of failing so many times that it discourages me from moving forward. Guilt gives me a feeling that nothing I do will outdo my past failures.</p>

<p>Updates for everyone:</p>

<p>First of all I want to thank you for your great advise. </p>

<p>I met with an academic adviser today. Below are the outcomes of the meeting:</p>

<p>1- I am academically capable, I just need to focus on managing my time.</p>

<p>2- I am not on Academic probation and I passed all of my classes for last semester.</p>

<p>2- I am in good standing financially, so my aid money</p>

<p>3- I need to come this Monday to register for classes in the morning, then we will meet to talk about time management.</p>

<p>4- He will do time management workshops on campus this fall, and I will happily attend all of them. </p>

<p>5- I proposed to buy my books next week once I register, so I can start reading my materials early and have a head start on everything.</p>

<p>6- Seek help if I feel like at the end of the semester everything is crumbling on me.</p>

<p>7- I am feeling better because he said that I can bring my GPA up to a 3.5 or even a 4.0 if I do well next semester.</p>

<p>8- I want to thank all of you again for your support.</p>

<p>Outside of school:</p>

<p>I have been doing an internship in my field of study this summer. The boss says that he will hire me after graduation because I do a good job. I will take everything one step at a time and make the best out of what I have.</p>

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<p>I will encourage you to look at “Are you really ready for college?” because that experienced dean writes about how time gets away from students – and how they can make choices without even realizing that they are closing doors. </p>

<p>There are tons of tools out there – wall calendar, sticky notes, daily planner, campus tutoring service, campus writing center. They may not all apply to you but please do keep an open mind and try all of them that you can. Good luck!</p>

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<p>Olymom, sticky notes and a planner are in the plan. At the end of the spring semester, one teacher suggested that I use a planner similar to one that he uses to make plans. During our talk he said that I should do my work by priority and organize my schedule into A, B and C categories. He further explain that whenever I have an “A” in my calendar, it should mean that this task should be done before I jump into B or C. </p>

<p>I have told the academic adviser about it; she is bringing one this Monday for our time management talk. </p>

<p>I have also decided to work for less hours next semester so I can put my time and energy into my academic activities. </p>

<p>I am making a list of all the books that were suggested in this thread so I can inform myself.</p>

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<p>buena suerte, vuvu!</p>

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<p>Sounds like you’re on the right track. Good luck! :)</p>

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<p>Great news! Thanks for letting us know!</p>

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<p>That is excellent! It really takes the pressure off on any past failures. Good luck!</p>

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<p>Vuvuzuela, I’m so happy to see your update. :slight_smile: You’re going to be just fine. I’m proud of you for moving forward. It’s hard sometimes, but you’re going to make it all the way down the road. :)</p>

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<p>Excellent start to a happy future! :)</p>

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<p>I’m a little late to the party (fashionably, of course) but here is one of my favorite sites that has a great number of entries on how to manage time better and/or be a better student: [Study</a> Hacks Blog Archive A Study Hacks Primer](<a href=“http://calnewport.com/blog/2009/11/20/a-study-hacks-primer/]Study”>A Study Hacks Primer - Cal Newport)</p>

<p>Best of luck, dearie.</p>