<p>I'm leaving for college out of town at the end of next month, and I know that in college I would have a much more enriching social life. But, my social skill is poor, and I don't understand how I could change it.
During high school I was a loner. I attended an inner city high school where nobody had the ambition like I did, so I transferred at the beginning of junior year. I liked my new school better, because it was much smaller and appeared to be much more tight knit, and plus, it was more diverse and there were people who aspired to attend top-tier high schools. However, almost everyone had a clique, and because the school is so small, it is very hard to recover from your first impressions/ what one did.
I have a quirky personality. A lot of people say I'm weird, because I say mindless, random things. I thought what I said was funny, but it only weird people out? So sometime during senior year (where I had a depression because of many things), I tried to be bland to get into one group during a college visit. It worked. I got a group of friends to hang out for the first day, but then the next two days there, it kinda fell off, and I didn't want to give off the impression that I was "clinging on" them.
Now, as I am going to college, I want to improve my social skills this summer to prepare for college and the after-college. How? I want to explore my town and make some connections here so that I'll get practice and a good time before leaving, and these skills will also be useful after college.</p>
<p>Has anyone transformed from an awkward, friendless high school student to a socially blooming adult? If so, how? I'm looking for answers from males, because females seem to make friends easier/ got hit on more/ able to have confidants, and thus generally have more social skills than males.</p>