<p>You just have to set the boundaries. They have to be crystal clear and you'll be fine!</p>
<p>at least yougotjohn is being flexible. although i take issue with democrat = automatically tolerant. that's definately not the case. </p>
<p>if someone have to request a change SOLELY on the basis that your roommate is gay, sounds like the person has issues with their own sexuality. like.. rooming with a gay person is going to cause them to become gay. because they really are. comfortable heterosexuals have no problems provided the gay respects boundaries.</p>
<p>I would not care, as long as they told me when they would be bringing someone over. But I expect that out of my straight roommate who has a boyfriend as well. One of my best friends's roommates is a lesbian and they are not bothered by it and neither would I be. I've met her a few times and she's really cool.</p>
<p>So what if someone requests a new room based solely on that? If you're as tolerant as you seem to think you are, you wouldn't judge someone for not being comfortable in a situation and removing themself from it. It'd be far worse for them to stay and treat their roommate like crap or avoid them like the plague.</p>
<p>I personally wouldn't request a new room just because they were gay (if they're an awesome person and we get along well, why do I care who they fancy?), but I do know many people that would. They aren't horrible people or incredibly ignorant; they're just not so open to everything.</p>
<p>okay, but people arent always going to be in situations they find comfortable. what if someone wasnt comfortable with a black roommate? a goth roommate? even a white conservative preppy roommate? unless there was just cause such as sexual harassment it has no soundness.</p>
<p>College is the only place in the world where you don't get to choose who you live with. If I don't want to live with someone who is black, or who is gay, or who smells like ass, that should be my damn business. This being said, for me to roommate with a gay guy, there would have to be seperate rooms, I would not have a problem with that I guess, and as long as he didn't try to put up posters of the Golden Girls and Xena the Warrior Princess.</p>
<p>I totally understand your point. </p>
<p>The thing is that many people truly believe that they choose that lifestyle (I'm not one of them) and seem to take their "choice" as a personal attack on their religion or something. I don't entirely get that, myself, but many people do feel that way.</p>
<p>Then there are the ones that are just grossed out by the whole idea and would rather not deal with it. </p>
<p>Most of the latter should be made to suck it up and deal with it, but the others will probably never change their minds. I don't see the point in forcing them to live in that kind of toxic situation.</p>
<p>if my roomate was gay I would switch...I have nothing against gays but it's just uncomfortable</p>
<p>katho, i'd agree with you if you said the rule extended beyond sexuality. if someone didnt like their roommates race or political beliefs, they can change too. </p>
<p>but in the long run i think that just furthers division. maybe a bigot could room with a gay and get over himself.</p>
<p>Wouldn't mind one bit. In fact I'd totally think he's awesome for having the guts to tell me.</p>
<p>To those of you who would have a problem rooming with a gay person: Don't worry. Your gay roommate doesn't want to live with you either.</p>
<p>What will you do if your new <em>straight</em> roommate is attracted to you?</p>
<p>if your dad was gay...</p>
<p>if your brother was gay...</p>
<p>a straight guy who is scared, or feels uncomfortable around a gay person obviously has insecurity issues or isn't confident with his sexuality.</p>
<p>because if you're a straight guy, and are comfortable with your sexuality, nothing and noone will bother you or be able to challenge it. so if anyone tries to invade your personal space, as can anyone(straight or gay) you do something about it.</p>
<p>can someone please tell me WHY living with a gay person is uncomfortable or "out of your comfort zone?" everyone is saying it just is but WHAT is it it about that person that makes it this way?</p>
<p>Think about it. If your only answer is "because he's gay" or "because he might hit on me" or "because it's wrong" you're being ignorant and need to sit down and reevaluate your thinking- so I guess in that sense having a gay roommate would be good for a lot of you.</p>
<p>My reason is simply because their lifestyle so different from mine. My gay friends are a lot of fun to hang around and go out with, but I wouldn't want to live with them day in and day out. I'm not a religious person, and I don't care what sex someone's attracted to...but I do care about how they act.</p>
<p>I'd rather room with someone more like myself. If a lesbian/(bi) was just like me but liked girls, I wouldn't have a problem rooming with her. I just haven't met any that have been much like me.</p>
<p>Being gay is not a "lifestyle" and not all gay people "act" the same. There are some pattens of music taste, clothing style, speaking style etc that you might notice, but they are by no means universal. Yes, everyone would like to room with someone who's like themselves... but as others have said, you might have a straight roommate whose taste in music, speaking style, etc you don't like.</p>
<p>If you don't have any objection to them being gay in the first place, then listen to this... what if someone said that they didn't want to live with a black person, because they just hadn't met many black people who were "much like" themselves, and they didn't like hip hop music or whatever? Or what if they said they wouldn't mind living with a black person, "as long as she were just like me, except black?" We might not consider that person racist, but we wouldn't think their preferences should be taken into account when choosing a roommate for them, and we might even say that having a black roommate might be a good experience for them.</p>
<p>I'm NOT saying that sexuality is the same thing as race, but you specifically said that it is the "lifestyle" and actions and not being like you that you object to... so I'd say in this case it could be pretty similar.</p>
<p>katho,</p>
<p>there are plenty of gays that are just like straight guys, who probably have the same tastes, the only difference is that they are attracted to men, while you're attracted to women. i know, i live in la, and have come around plenty of gay guys(I'm one) who in all honesty are different, as are straight guys.</p>
<p>what you're defending doesn't make sense. it's like you saying you wouldn't roomate with someone that has interests like you, but wore blue socks while you wear white/black socks. there are gay guys out there who are like you or have interests like you. not every gay guy listens to or enjoys britney spears, etc.</p>
<p>I realize that there are many gay folks that don't fit the stereotype. I've only happened to meet one of them my age, though (unless, of course, there are some people that weren't openly gay or something).</p>
<p>I just really can't take how most of my gay friends act 24/7. That's all. Actually, I can't take how a lot of my friends act 24/7, so it's really not limited to just gay folks.</p>
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<p>And it may surprise you to know that some schools do ask if a person has a preference to the race of their roommate...and their age...and even musical tastes. Just saying.</p>
<p>i wouldnt mind at all but id hope the person would atleast tell me that weird to keep such a large secret from a room mate but i guess in good time you would find out anyway</p>
<p>I think I'd rather them tell me after we know each other a bit. There's more to someone than just their sexuality, so I'd rather know who they are first and their sexuality second. You know, to avoid me making wrong assumptions about them or something.</p>
<p>Wow........the people of this country have loose moral values.</p>