<p>I've got about a month left of my sophomore year in college. I came here with one friend and that's my roommate. I haven't made any friends since I've gotten to this school. I've tried being social. Talking to people in class, outside of class, clubbing, parties, online, I've joined clubs and I even joined a coed frat. I still have no friends at all. My roommate has her own friends and tries to include me in what they do but they usually just party and drink. I'm not into that. I love art galleries, museums, laser tag, movies that kinda thing. Im a little geeky. I've always had many friends but all of them live back home. I opted to go to a school that was a little over an hour away. My friend/acquaintance may be moving from my school. Outside of my roomie she's my only friend. Like I've said, I've tried everything. When I came to this school I was eager to make friends and start my "college experience" but i was shunned pretty much from the get go. I dont know why. If theres something wrong with me. Its too the point where if someone talks to me, I'll get nervous and can't speak much at all. Its becoming that debilitating. I keep wondering if something's wrong with me. Freshman year most people had groups of friends or I saw them make a group of friends in class. It always seemed like I was thrown by the wayside and if be trying to get into their group. Wouldn't work. Can anyone help me? My roommatebwill be graduating in a year and I don't think I can take two whole years of being completely alone.. (I'm not depressed or antisocial, but I am gay and dress like a masculine girl at times. Could that be a cause?)</p>
<p>You might want to get some counseling and talk to your parents.
Join a gay / lesbian group in your college or near by. Listening is very important in developing friendship.
Have confidence and hope and smile
Having positive outlook on life attracts others
Its hard but it is okay to not to belong to a group. Be who you are and stay strong
Good luck</p>
<p>Your situation sounds very, very much like what I’m going through, I even visited a counselor but all you get are generic responses like “be more active and social”. You are obviously already doing everything you can. The only reason I can think of for such a situation is that most people already have their place in a group of friends and just aren’t willing to invest much into making new ones. It’s difficult, especially since you are made to feel like you’re missing out on something, or like there must be something wrong with you. I’m struggling with it, myself. The only advice I can offer is that focusing on things you can do on your own may help. Read, write, draw, anything. If there are art galleries in your area, don’t hesitate to go by yourself. Make the most of the time you have for yourself.</p>