<p>I am a freshman at Utica College. When I first arrived to my dorm room and met my roomate, everything was fine. We got along well with each other and had some things in common. However, she has asthma and she feels that it is necessary to keep the window open all the time, even when she is not in the room. Now, for anyone that doesnt know, Utica is located in upstate new york, where it snows 8 months out of the year and is always freezing. Everytime I woke up in the morning, it was always cold. Soon I got fed up. I confronted her respectfully saying " I understand you have asthma but at the same time it is winter and its cold and I dont see why you have to keep the window open 24/7, even when you are not even in the room. And by you doing that, you are putting me at risk of getting sick" All she kept saying is that its because her asthma. I tried to compromise with her and asked her if she could please close the window before she leaves the room. And she caught an attitude. After that conversation, she took her coat and slammed the door on the way out. I already talked to my RA about it and she sat and mediated with us. We made an agreement that she would close the window before she leaves. Lately she has not been going by the aggreement and she has been leaving the window open and worst of all, I have been really sick lately. Now shes actin like a big bitch and I cant stand her. She has been doin things like leavin her nasty hair on my side of the room, starrin at me all evil and rollin her eyes at me for no reason. And whats crazy about this is she is about to be 20 yrs old and Im only 17 and I act more mature than she does. Please guys, tell me what I should do before I snuff this bitch in her face!!!!!!</p>
<p>Hmmm, how do you say? Ah, yes... Scott Peterson, Andrea Yates. Just kidding. A little violence never hurt nobody. Just kidding again. I have no clue, nor do I know a lot about Utica. If I were you, and I am speaking as a guy that doesn't take any BS, I would try to beat her at her own game. To avoid being an accomplice to something, I'll keep mum starting now. See the RA again and let him/her know.</p>
<p>I like how your post got exponentially less rational and increasingly less mature, as far as sentence structure/diction goes. It's just interesting, not a bad thing. </p>
<p>Hmm, I would go talk to your RA again. Other than that, I have no idea... I have very little experience with college matters. Anyway, I hope it gets better. :)</p>
<p>She is taking you for a ride. My S has asthma, and we never keep windows open. You may suggest that open windows makes all the pollen and stuff in the room and that may trigger her asthma. Do you have central heat or those steam heaters in the room?</p>
<p>You both may want to go to your college medical facility and get some education on asthma - if a doctor told her that open windows actually hurt her, she may believe it.</p>
<p>holy crap my roommate from hell did that too but she did other things that were 10x's worse such as steal $2000 worth of stuff including: mail packages, jewelry, graphing calc, cameras, car keys, parking permits, cash, prada wallet, id cards, credit card numbers etc.<br>
Because parking was limited we rorated for parking and so she would leave her car in the car port when it wasn't her turn and would also purposely leave it there when she wasn't even at the apartment just so that her other roommates would have no where to park. Plus she was very cheap and she never bought toilet paper or other shared supplies and never helped to clean the apartment when she created most of the mess. </p>
<p>We also got along fine at first until we confronted her about leaving the window open and how she purposely leaves her car in the car port when she's not even home. After we confronted her, that's when everything started to go missing.</p>
<p>For your situation, I would recommend that you just tell your RA because talking to your roommate might end up in a even bigger conflict. My roommate got more and more evil the more we confronted her. So I just decided be forgiving and be nice to her to make sure she didn't get worse or think of something crazy to do to us such as to poison us or something.</p>
<p>Replace her inhaler with a CO2 cartridge.</p>
<p>I agree that you have a serious complaint about the window being left open and you should talk to the RA again. But, it seems you might be getting so fed up with her in this respect, that you're finding little things as well to nitpick about. Whenever I'm ****ed at my roommate, I get annoyed at everything she does, even if it's completely harmless and not meant to be an affront. So, when you're discussing the problems with the RA, make sure to stick to the key issue -- the window -- and not go into the niggling little things you think she's doing. If you heap it all on at once, you're going to put her even more on the defensive and it will be harder to find a solution. Once the big issue is solved, more than likely everything else will all work out. I hope you feel better!</p>
<p>"I like how your post got exponentially less rational and increasingly less mature, as far as sentence structure/diction goes. It's just interesting, not a bad thing."</p>
<p>Haha, I know. It's just that exams are killing my brain cells. The point remains, however, that the other girl is obviously lying or a curse word. For heaven's sake, I don't know how cold it is in upstate NY right now, but the OP thinks she's getting sick (pneumonia or something). That ain't cool.</p>
<p>Can't you change at semester break?</p>
<p>Why can't she go and buy one of those air filteration systems? There like 80 bucks. It sucks that your roomate isn't considerate towards your feelings.</p>
<p>Emsibdn: I am Antonio....EBANDERESSSS. </p>
<p>It seems like trying to switch rooms would be best alternative. Maybe there is another student who also has asthma and needs to keep their window open, and another student like yourself who can't stand it.</p>
<p>Well why dont you tell her that hoovering is the only answer and that opening the window actually gives cinetic energy to dust particles.Therefore, her argument stands no chance. Plan B: there's no better way to deal with roommates than to glu the window up or put itch powder on their clothes.</p>
<p>i already requested that to her and she was actin like she didnt wanna hear it. She said she wasnt going to waste her money on a filter if she had a window</p>
<p>ok, then take it up with the board of cruel and unusual activity. :)</p>
<p>^ agreed. Or what you can do is like suspend some type of dusty mat right above the window.</p>
<p>^ hahahaha... That's it... you need to make her move out without her knowing you intentionally did it... Go to the laundry room and grab some of that lint stuff and throw it around her side of the room. Burn some incents (SP? lol)... That'll get her hackin... I know my brother gets pretty bad near dust... So that might work... ;) haha</p>
<p>Try making a deal with her. Harisprays, De-oderants and perfumes smells are some of the triggers for asthma. Make a deal that you can have the window open few inches to get in the circulation, and you won't use 'smelly' stuff.</p>
<p>Triggering an asthma attack is not even remotely funny. It can be deadly. While I know you're trying to deal with this with an opened mind, resorting to such tactics is cruel. I have 2 kids w/asthma and the only reason they would like the cool air is that it does help them breathe easier when hot forced air heat is involved. I think you need to re-mediate with your RA and/or someone has to move out. Clearly, this isn't going to work out since neither side really wants to concede. Good luck.</p>
<p>Hi MissGurl! I love you!</p>
<p>Hello, I am the "plaintiff's" sister. hehe :-P. It's not that she doesn't want to concede, laxmom, it's just that her roommate is a... well, let's just say she's not the jolliest gumdrop in the bag. With all due respect to her asthma (I have asthma and chronic bronchitis by the way), she really needs to consider MissGurl's position. As for me, because of my own condition, things such as open windows throughout the night might cause colds that are perpetually dangerous. (For example, when I catch a cold, it becomes a very serious lung infection. If MissGurl's roommate and I had to share a room, we'd be having some serious problems and for exactly the same reasons. But that's just me.) </p>
<p>All I am saying is that just becuz the chick has asthma doesn't mean she shouldn't consider the other person's conditions as well. Has she asked if MissGurl is susceptible to dangerous colds and the like? Nope. Her condition does not by any means make her the queen of the room. In addition to her demands about the window, the girl in general has a serious attitude problem. With or w/o the asthma she is a real shrew. Therefore, it is a lot harder to either accommodate or compromise with her.</p>
<p>I feel that MissGurl has done all she could to accommodate her roommate andhas complied with no reciprocation. I mean let's get serious here. If the girl really cared about her asthma and the "smell" she would also do her laundry on time and take steps to take care of herself as I do, in addition to her advocacy for the open window. She can't depend on others to kiss her rump and roll out the red carpet for her. </p>
<p>Just my very unbiased slice for the day! (Complete sarcasm here.) :-) Peace.</p>
<p>Oh also having said all of that, laxmom is right. Triggering an asthma attack is a bad idea. Not pleasant for the person with asthma and potentially deadly.</p>
<p>Although your responses had me rolling off of my seat. :-) Stay funny, but be sensitive. Love and peace.</p>