<p>I realize that this may seem like a very stupid problem to many of you,
but please be nice to me.. I get hurt very easily.</p>
<p>I am a senior in Canada,
and I was an okay student up until the Senior grade.</p>
<p>In the first semester, I met this guy at an online game.
He said he was 23 and I was 20 (in asian age, just bear with me...)
and although we were complete strangers we hit it off right away.
He seemed very nice, and I actually fell in love with someone I met online.</p>
<p>Then, I started skipping schools to meet him
(he was in an asian country, and to see him I had to go online in the morning)
From a student with no absences and a 94% average,
I became a student with 24 absences in one and a half month and my average dropped down to 75%.</p>
<p>I slacked while writing college essays.. and such</p>
<p>But something I did must have made him very angry because he just told me that he found me disgusting.</p>
<p>I have friends (I'm not an anti-social person) but no one ever .. how should I put it
just completely rejected me without telling me a reason.</p>
<p>I am really, really sad, because he hates me for some reason, and I still like him.
It makes it even more sad because this is online.</p>
<p>I don't want to talk to my parents about it because they won't understand, and
I can't talk about this to my friends because they'll laugh at me for liking someone online.</p>
<p>Any advice would be nice... please help me feel better.</p>
<p>More than likely, he was lying about his persona. He may have been older. He may have been married. He may even be a woman. When he got tired of the game, he dropped you, and made up a reason for dropping you.</p>
<p>Please learn from this not to meet people the way you met him. What you had going was a fantasy, not something based on the truth. Yes, it’s possible to meet people on-line and to end up having a good relationship, but not the way you met him, but through a reputable service.</p>
<p>Fortunately, you didn’t meet him in person because people have lost their lives through such meetings with strangers.</p>
<p>The important thing is to move forward and start taking your classwork and school seriously, salvage your courses and go on with your life & education. It is dicey when you “meet” folks on-line because it is tough to know who anyone is and how much of what they write is true & how much is made up.</p>
<p>I know a beautiful young woman who has always been a college male on-line because she didn’t want to to flirted with on-line and also didn’t like the way males generally treat females on-line in many of the sites she has participated in. I know this woman is NOT alone in adopting a persona that differs from what she really is.</p>
<p>This unfortunate experience has understandably thrown you emotionally off-balance, so
I recommend that you find a sympathetic adult (guidance counselor, teacher, relative) to talk to who can help you feel better and get back on track.</p>
<p>This happens far more frequently than you think to teenagers. They make themselves vulnerable and put themselves out there. I’m sure that you can talk to your GC about this and she’ll help you get back on track.</p>
<p>Don’t be hurt. He had no right to treat you this way. The problem was him and not you. Get angry with him for treating you so shabbily and the best revenge is to live well.</p>
<p>go to college, start a new life & put the past behind you!
judging the true nature of people by their online persona is very difficult
reconnect with your friends & family</p>
<p>Honestly look at the effect that your “encounter” had on your life. Take solace in the fact that this was not good for you. You would have learned to resent this eventually, or worse yet, not resented it and accepted this as normal. There are a lot of nice guys out there. Go to college or to the work force and meet some nice people.</p>