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k&s why do you have to criticize everything I said?
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<p>sweetdream - when have I criticized "everything" you have stated?</p>
<p>I have only pointed out the two gross generalizations that you have made.</p>
<p>Why would you not want to be asian. Imagine the things you can do if your asian and what you couldn't do if you weren't asian. Would u give these up.
1. Fly
2. Travel to different dimensions to save worlds
3. Kill someone just by looking at them
4. Blow up planets
5. Shoot power blasts
6. Being totally inept at talking to women yet have a wife after u start ur job
7. Read peoples mind
8. Never being broke, having a stable lifestyle
9. Talk a different language that ur parents actually bothered to teach you
10. Not having eyelids</p>
<p>There are many other things asian people have that are cool, and also things that they can do.</p>
<p>I would give up #1-5,#7-8 because that's not possible. However, #6... ;)</p>
<h1>9 is kind of ironic..I sat here on my computer everyday for about 3 years listening to my parents talk about other people..and I'm kind of fluent now</h1>
<p>:( I want eyelids...</p>
<h1>1-5,#7-8 are the best ones!</h1>
<p>Has little to do with being Asian, I think. I am white and I was in your exact same situation (different schools though). I had gotten into a bunch of schools back east and my parents had wanted me to go to the local state school, where practically everyone else from my high school enrolled. I had worked too hard to simply give all that up, so, if you'd like, here is my advice:</p>
<p>The college you go to should be your choice. I went to the school I wanted even though my parents wanted me to stay close to home in the same state. But I felt like I worked hard to get into the schools I wanted, and throwing away ideal choices would be like winning the lottery and spending the next four years dumping it all down a sewer grate somewhere. All the other kids from my high school who did nothing would be going to the state school -- why did I work so hard, and get accepted to all these other places, if I am going to simply throw it away because my parents suddenly decided they didn't want me to go? Don't throw away opportunity because of impulsive, albeit justified, concerns from your parents. </p>
<p>Go where you want to go -- even though my parents said they refused to fully fund me if I went to a more expensive school, I went anyway, and it was a wise decision, I believe, even though I have to pay a lot more. </p>
<p>At some point in life you have to be able to make your own decisions and be able to not rely on your parents. It's hard for parents to see their kids go -- they love them too much and don't want them to suddenly become distant. After all the time you guys have had, they may be feeling a little anxious or afraid of the future with such a huge transition coming up. If you are truly set on a given school, and you don't wish to get on bad terms with your parents, really sit down with them and explain why you'd rather go there instead of somewhere close. Acknowledge their reasons and consider them -- but if you feel that your reasons are stronger, tell them why. People? School opportunities? Jobs? Education? There are a ton of factors that can outweigh going somewhere close. </p>
<p>This is really all it comes down to, I think. It is not selfish to go to the school of your choice. You worked hard for it. Ultimately I think all parents should realize it is the student's choice... otherwise it defeats the purpose. You have to really be happy where you go, or things will not be optimal. It's a huge transition, but if you show responsibility and maturity in the way you communicate your points to your parents, they will be more willing to see things from your perspective. </p>
<p>Don't dump it all on culture -- that is NOT a mature way to communicate this issue, in my opinion. Parents of different races, income levels, etc, all have different views on things. This is strictly an issue between a parent and child. Parents naturally want to keep you close, but I think the transition from high school to college is the ideal spot to make that first step towards independence from your parents. By independence I do not mean emotional distance -- you can still communicate and maintain your relationship, but at the same time you are making the best decision for yourself.</p>
<p>Now, if finances are a huge issue, then it becomes tricky. You have to be willing to pay for yourself if your parents are absolutely unwilling or unable to support your decision. You'll have to be prepared for taking out loans and filling out all the relevant financial paperwork. If this is not the case, then consider yourself lucky, haha. But if the prices are close between schools, then this shouldn't be as much of an issue. </p>
<p>It's your choice, and you should go where you want. That much, I believe, is certain -- but you don't have to ruin your relationship with your parents in order to do so. I'd hate to relive high school and bring along all that drama. Just talk it over with your parents calmly. This is an issue that is going to need to be resolved at some point in life. You may as well deal with it now.</p>
<p>I know that was long, but if you care enough, I know you'll read it, lol.</p>