<p>Well, it's time for me to decide which college to go to but not like I have any choice anyways. Actually, I was admitted to 5 out of the 6 colleges that I applied to. I really want to go to UCSD, you could say it's my dream school, and I made it in to that. However, my parents barely acknowledge that fact. They insist on making me go to UCI. The reason they give is that it's closer to home and wouldn't worth that much money. Well, I talk it over to my counselor and he actually said that UCSD give a much better award package. Why did I even bother to study hard and getting into UCSD and now not even going there. Tons of people at my school are appealing right now hoping for a second chance to go there. And I have to throw this opportunnity away. It suxes so bad. I hate the Asian culture. Parents always refuse to give up their child. They want to hold on as long as possible. It's so annoying. Is anybody in the same situation? Now they are not really like forbid me to go to SD but I know I will feel really guilty if I go there knowing that they are not happy with my choice. And not to mention if I go to SD I kind of abandon my responsibility as a sister and helping out my brother and get him to college. In the American culture, most parents practically shut the door on their child and encourage them to go dorming and stuff but the Asian parents are different. So should I be a good child and endure UCI for four years then move out or be selfish for once and do what I want? It's such a tough choice to make. Not to mention that going to UCI will really hurt my pride. Almost everybody at my school is going there. It will be like high school all over again. UCI just sound really unacttractive to me for some reason may be because it's so close to home. Ok, that it's I'm done ranting now. I guess the admins will probably delete this anyway thinking it's a pointless thread. Well whatever, I hope I can make my decision soon.</p>
<p>Hint: The difference between UCSD & UCI is not that much.</p>
<p>SweetDream, I am an Asian-Am parent and fully support your dream. The reality is that it's your life and if that's what you really want to do, you should go to UCSD. College is a time to learn, have fun, and grow up. Being away from home is a necessary part of that for many people. Maybe this decision is the first step in that process for you. It sounds like the money factor is not a concern here. Your parents may be disappointed a little in the beginning but will get over it. Point out to them that UCSD is a more "prestigious" school and that will help if you are planning on post-graduate studies. Acquiescing to guilt and going to UCI would be a mistake. You will resent them for "forcing" you to forego your choice and yourself for being too weak to take your dream when it is there in front of you for the taking. Good luck to you.</p>
<p>go to UCSD.</p>
<p>good luck!</p>
<p>its about time you stick up for yourself and stop letting your parents make all the decisions. By the time you start college (or close to it) you'll be 18, and you basically make your own decisions. Stand up to your parents and tell them you don't want to go to Irvine, and that you are going to SD. This is a 4+ year commitment, make it something you enjoy.</p>
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I hate the Asian culture. Parents always refuse to give up their child. They want to hold on as long as possible. It's so annoying. Is anybody in the same situation?
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<p>Ughh - it has nothing to do with "Asian culture", but rather YOUR parents and the particulars of your family situation.</p>
<p>Asian-Americans go to universities/colleges all across the US and hundreds of thousands of Asian parents in Asia send their kids OVERSEAS for education.</p>
<p>"In the American culture, most parents practically shut the door on their child and encourage them to go dorming and stuff but the Asian parents are different."</p>
<p>First of all, that's a pretty gross generalization of American culture - and you obviously haven't met Asian parents who are happy to get the kids "out of the house."</p>
<p>"I really want to go to UCSD, you could say it's my dream school, and I made it in to that. However, my parents barely acknowledge that fact. They insist on making me go to UCI. The reason they give is that it's closer to home and wouldn't worth that much money. Well, I talk it over to my counselor and he actually said that UCSD give a much better award package".</p>
<p>Wait and see what the financial aid package is from UCSD - if the $$ is close then talk to your parents.</p>
<p>Ultimately the decision is yours and even if they aren't initially happy about it (if you do choose to go to UCSD) - they'll eventually come around.</p>
<p>Btw, you're not the only one with this problem.</p>
<p>You're picking on your culture unfairly.</p>
<p>I live in California, I'm asian and my parents are essentially fobs. I have more freedom then just about everyone I know--no curfew, no essential chores, home alone half the time-- and when deiciding between staying in California or going to the East coast, its me who's unsure if I want to leave. My parents on the other hand, WANT me to go to the east coast across the continent and get a better feel of the world. </p>
<p>This is a parental issue, not a cultural one. There are way too many whiny Asians on this site who see everything that doesnt go their way as being a product of their race and culture.</p>
<p>Although I agree that this itself is an individual issue, you can't deny the existance of a cultural problem/true stereotype altogether -- just not on this issue.</p>
<p>Sorry but ***?</p>
<p>A lot of my white friend's parents also only allow them to go to college near their houses. It's up to the parents, NOT the asian cultures.</p>
<p>My parents would let me go out of states too, even though they don't like the idea at first.</p>
<p>Well I'll try to convince my parents again this weekend. Of all the people at school including counselors they all advise me to pick UCSD. Only my parents are against this.
Okay I know I probably exxaggerate a little bit and blame this problem on the whole asian culture but you have to admit that this problem show up a lot of time especially if the child is a girl.</p>
<p>but...it isn't really there decision to make! Unless you're afraid they are gonna cut you out of the family, you should tell them you respect their opinions, but you want to go where you want! Honestly, if you don't want to go to irvine, you're gonna hold a grudge about it, and probably never like as much as somewhere you really would like to go to.</p>
<p>I agree with k&s.</p>
<p>Hey what happens if you tell them you go to whatever school you want? No money?</p>
<p>sweetdream is simply having the natural reaction of one who has been told by society and pop culture that almost everything about his heritage (Asianness) is embarrassing and undesirable.</p>
<p>I wish I was an underrepresented minority!!! GRRRRRR--> I'm mad, yeah, you know it, I'm bad, GRRRRRR!!!</p>
<p>This problem happens plenty of times in white culture or whatever too. Don't blame everything on asian-ness. I sympathize though. I'd hate to relive high school all over again with the same people. Don't settle for Irvine just because your parents told you to; there just doesn't seem to be a way to not regret that. I'm not sure where exactly Irvine is, but you can get just about everywhere in California in a day's drive. Tell your parents you'll come home once a month or something.</p>
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I wish I was an underrepresented minority!!! GRRRRRR--> I'm mad, yeah, you know it, I'm bad, GRRRRRR!!!
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<p>Asians aren't underrepresented minorities in academics. This makes your post doubly worthless.</p>
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Okay I know I probably exxaggerate a little bit and blame this problem on the whole asian culture but you have to admit that this problem show up a lot of time especially if the child is a girl.
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<p>I thought Asians didn't give a rat's arse about their daughters.</p>
<p>"I wish I was an underrepresented minority!!! GRRRRRR--> I'm mad, yeah, you know it, I'm bad, GRRRRRR!!!"</p>
<p>So do Asians - GRRRRR!!!!</p>
<p>I know chris, I know Asians aren't underep minorities. That's why I was complaining, because I'm Asian too.</p>
<p>k&s why do you have to criticize everything I said? Isn't there like both side to everything? Yes, some parents could careless about a girl but adore their boy child like a treasure, but there are some parents who think a child is a child and don't care about the gender. They would be very protective of the girl since they feel that if anything happen it's the girl that get the disadvantage like losing her virginity and stuff while guys don't have to worry about this.
I'm a girl by the way</p>
<p>And there are parents like that of all races..</p>