<p>Hi! I have absolutely no dating experience; I haven't even been in a relationship. I've flirted and talked to guys, but never actually went out with them. I am a junior in HS right now, assuming I will not gain any experience senior year, will this inexperience hinder my social life in college?</p>
<p>bump bump bump</p>
<p>I wouldn’t worry too much about having little dating experience because basically, you’re the girl, and odds are, if the guy has asked you out, he probably likes you, so you really don’t need worry about impressing him. The only real thing I expect from the girls I go out with is that they be engaging and go with the flow of the date, and by that, I mean that they’re open to new ideas and they’re cool with whatever I want us to do, assuming I asked her out.</p>
<p>As for your social life, I don’t really think being inexperienced when it comes to dating is really going to hold you back at all. The only situation I could possibly see that might trip you up is if you went on a double date, which are naturally somewhat awkward, but will be made even more so by your inexperience. If I were you, I really wouldn’t worry about it. Things will come naturally.</p>
<p>Does one actually have to date to have a good college life?</p>
<p>you’ll be fine! i didn’t date very much in high school, either (i was too busy!!), but when i got to college everything was really casual. i’ve had my share of hookups but i’ve been on a lot of actual dates, too (and had my first serious relationship). just don’t expect that every first date will turn into a relationship–college dating is super laid-back; i feel like in high school “do you wanna go out this weekend?” meant something more like, “do you wanna be my girlfriend immediately?” (awkward. haha)</p>
<p>OP: Not as far as I can see, no. My best friend and my roommate both came into college never having dated before. Both now have boyfriends. Either you meet the sort of people that you click with and would consider dating or you don’t. It really seems to be just a matter of patience unless you’re really concerned with actively pursuing a relationship. </p>
<p>Chlormel: Dating can be exciting, but is definitely not something I’d consider extremely necessary. I might consider it solely for getting some experience with understanding the social norms and expectations of dating before you’re an adult and are expected to know these things in the real world. However, it’s really not a necessary thing at all unless it’s something you really want to do.</p>
<p>There’s social norms associated with dating?</p>
<p>Like what, chew with your mouth closed, lol?</p>
<p>I just do whatever the hell I want.</p>
<p>Here’s a tip that will lead to a sure-fire memorable and awesome date for the gentleman in question: </p>
<p>put out.</p>
<p>…lol</p>
<p>are there differences among the terms</p>
<p>dating
going out
being in a relationship</p>
<p>i’m really confused.</p>
<p>I never had a boyfriend until college either, don’t worry. I’ve had a couple now, and some casual dating partners. College is much more diverse than where I was from, so it just took me a little longer to find people I clicked with (ie not the rednecks who went to my hs). </p>
<p>Personally, I think it’s nice and quite fun to date/have a bf but not completely necessary. It can bring alot of stupid drama into your life that you don’t need, and I’ve unfortunately experienced this more than I would’ve liked.</p>
<p>ETA starling:
dating is like, casual, hey let’s go watch a movie, hang out at parties, etc.
going out is getting a little more serious, having gone on more than one date
in a relationship is actually the most serious. this is where you are only dating that one other person, you call each other bf/gf, etc.</p>
<p>keeping things gray rather than labeling them in black and white terms like above is actually most advantangeous for the guy</p>
<p>If you’ve been reading the forums… it would be apparent that guys are way more desperate than girls. That should be a good sign.</p>
<p>As a current college freshman with no dating experience, I have a question. Obviously, things aren’t as defined as in high school, casual relationships are more common, etc. So how do I tell what a guy thinks our relationship is (e.g. “in a relationship,” casual dating, etc.)? I feel like there’s some implicit knowledge regarding degree of seriousness, whether or not the relationship is exclusive, etc. Yeah, you can’t ever know for sure, but how do I get a better idea?</p>
<p>How do you know if the relationship is exclusive?</p>
<p>You let the guy know you want/ are looking for something exclusive and ask if he’s wants the same.</p>
<p>In other words, YOU TALK TO THE GUY.</p>
<p>go out with the guy in the other thread, you’ll figure things out together, sure there’s an age gap but whatever</p>
<p>^ lol .</p>
<p>Lots of kids in top colleges never dated in high school… You’ll be fine.</p>
<p>Even those MIT kids are able to date in college.</p>
<p>gotta love those MIT kids</p>
<p>Girls don’t need skillz at MIT/CMU.</p>