In your opinion: Do most college relationships last after graduation?

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I’m a college junior now and I’ve been debating about the relationship game. On one end it would be awesome to be in a relationship with someone, on another end, I don’t feel like I have necessarily settled and found that perfect someone yet. Part of the reason is because I don’t know exactly where I’ll be after graduation, and I don’t feel completely settled to confidently know how well it’ll last.

From observing around, it seems like this is the time so many get into relationships, and while I’ve seen some classmates still in a distance relationship with their high school peers, some of which they seem to only talk to about once a week, which completely confuses me how they can still be so close together, there are others who I’ve noticed seem to be getting a relationship for the sake for the relationship. I was wondering to my college experts and perhaps more experienced elders and graduates: do you think from your observations, have most college relationships actually ended up in marriage or closeness once graduation kicks in?

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Wow, what an “it depends” question! Humans are amazingly variable in the when and how of relationships. When I started dating my husband (in 1980) I was a college sophomore. We had met and were acquaintances the year before. We decided to marry the following summer, in 1981. My father, who was going through the divorce from my mother at the time, said we would never make it, I would get pregnant and never finish college. Well, I married anyway, didn’t have a child until we were married 15+ years, and we are still married 34 years later. I don’t think you can plan a relationship path or designate which way is right or wrong. Relationships are amazing and challenging at the same time. When you meet the person that you are ready to work through the highs and lows with, then you will have the best relationship for you. That can happen any time in your life.