<p>You would think, but when you come home with a bunch of B's and C's on your tests and your parents say "ohhhh great job sweetie, these classes are really hard," it's almost fake and very condescending.</p>
<p>Parent here.</p>
<p>As long as my kids did their best, I was satisfied. I think grades are a combination of intelligence and effort. Intelligence is what you're born with; effort is what you do. So I didn't demand all As from my kids; I think that's out of their control. But I did demand that they take the work seriously.</p>
<p>For me, parental pressure was the worst in terms of activities. My theory was I'll show them I'm on track to becoming val, and they will say my free time is my free time. However, they never shut up about basically doing that one additional EC, even though I've done research and just about everything you can think of. Like they made me swim in the winter, even though I already do XC and track in fall and spring, just because there was no need to leave space in my year unused... Any1 have parents who you get the grades on your own, but they go even crazier? But you know that come april, their plan will be the reason that you can wear your HPYS sweatshirt and have a smug look on your face?</p>
<p>My mom is a biology teacher... And I'm taking biology this year. You have NO idea what kind of pressure that is. She makes me do HER assignments along with my teachers on occasion, and she rereads all my papers and homework and teaches me. It's a helpful resource when reviewing for a test but on average its annoying.</p>
<p>The weird thing is, my mom doesn't really care about my ECs. She thinks if i have like straight 100s, it won't matter if I don't have a soul. This is ridiculous, no?</p>
<p>I have no parental pressure (they only require I get at least Bs, which are WAY too easy to get).</p>
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It's so funny, my parents are the exact opposite of most CC parents. I come home and my parents order me to relax and watch TV. They get really mad when I'm up past nine working and threaten to make me drop classes if I don't get more sleep. When I get upset about grades I get lectured about how unimportant grades are in the grand scheme of things...it actually get's a little annoying after a while.
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UUUUURGGGGH yes, my parents are just like this. I'll stay up late writing an essay or something, and my mom insists on yelling things like "Couldn't you just finish it now and take a B on it?!?!??" or something silly like that. LOL. But really, she does. Lol. My parents are always like, "Sleep is so important!!!!" - which is ridiculous, since my combined sleeping time per day is always ~8 hours anyway, so it's not like I'm lacking in the sleep department. Anyway, my parents deemphasize grades and think I should just sit there and get bad grades or something.</p>
<p>^^That's really funny, I didn't know any other parents like mine existed.</p>
<p>lol MAYBE WE'RE TWINS! : o</p>
<p>My mom is like that, although she's much more lax and flexible. be glad you have those parents that care about you, sleep is important, and don't force you to get good grades or get a beatdown.</p>
<p>oh my parents REALLY dislike B's</p>
<p>Lololol IV, you fail, massively even, in the sleep department. You're parents are obviously right about this, for once...</p>
<p>Anyhow I haven't had even a hint of parental pressure for the past decade. My mum is confident that I'll act in my best interests far better than she ever could, and that if I truly didn't give a **** she wouldn't find it worth her time to force me otherwise.</p>
<p>My parents love saying phrases like "Top 10" and "Harvard". Ugh.</p>
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Anyhow I haven't had even a hint of parental pressure for the past decade. My mum is confident that I'll act in my best interests far better than she ever could, and that if I truly didn't give a **** she wouldn't find it worth her time to force me otherwise.
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lol pretty much this.</p>
<p>Yes, I haven't been really pushed by my parents either. In one of my classes, there are only six kids, and it's funny to see how their parents e-mail the teacher each day worrying about their performance in class, but mine haven't ever. It's cute.</p>
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Lololol IV, you fail, massively even, in the sleep department. You're parents are obviously right about this, for once...
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Hah! The only reason you even think this is because the only time we talk is right before I go to sleep, and the sleepiness hits me fast, and then I can't think much. Lol. I do get a lot of sleep though, if you add it up from throughout the day.</p>
<p>Haha, the whole doesn't seem to be the sum of the parts in this case, especially given your on-again-off-again-monophasic-no-wait-I-was-supposed-to-be-on-biphasic-whoops sleeping schedule. Anyhow, it's virtually impossible for me to catch you at a time not before you go to sleep, since you nap after school and sleep at night, haha, you're always sleeping when I'm off!</p>
<p>edit, oh, and you're the one who always says that they're tired, so I really based my judgment there more than on anything else (because a rigorously followed polyphasic clock can work)... ;p</p>
<p>(no seriously, humor yourselves.)</p>
<p>my mom doesn't like brown university because she thinks that since she confused it with boston university, it isn't famous enough to be a school i should go to.</p>
<p>northwestern is a school "anyone can go to"
so are UCLA, UC Berkeley -she made this logic up from students accepted in cali as we used to live there. need i remind that UC's usually accept around 50% of their students from california- any college except wellesley (including bryn mawr and haverford and carnegie mellon and all those great schools which she thinks aren't famous enough)</p>
<p>and the only schools I SHOULD go to are harvard(she would prefer i go to princeton), princeton (she loves princeton), yale, MIT, columbia, upenn (I argued the campus was totally ghetto, she said it doesn't matter as long as it's a good school. i countered: I'M NOT MAJORING MEDICINE) stanford </p>
<p>and then second tier are cornell, brown, wellesley (she thinks smith isn't famous enough)</p>
<p>getting one 90 in 8th grade 4th quarter grades when my average that quarter was still a 94 is an indicator that I can only go to community college.</p>
<p>i am not worth spending money on a private school for.</p>
<p>my teachers are horrible (agree) but because i am a horrible student i don't get good grades.</p>
<p>i am a disrespectful stupid smartass who is ungrateful to a caring caring mother
and at least i should be a disrespectful SMART smartass but I'm not because I have such **** grades (my grade average freshman 1st q is 94 with 6 clubs boohoo i'm such a failure. even i'm not that stupid.)</p>
<p>at least to her.</p>
<p>haha had to rant. i despise my parents. constantly yelled at it's annoying. i've had more than one time when my mom annoyed me so much I walked out of the room and she dragged me back in to waste three hours of my time yelling.</p>
<p>my parents are making me apply to two programs( a medical school and a really prestiguous honors school) just so that when i get the rejection letter, they can tell everyone how i wasn't good enough...yup. we're almost in the same boat..(of course, i'm a little mad b/c my dad listened in on one of my phone conversations, and then hung it up from another phone. so i'm not going to be very nice about him right now.)</p>
<p>and they won't even let me apply to the school that i want, and think that even though i'm a really strong student for most schools, that i can't get in anywhere b/c i got a few Bs in freshmen year. </p>
<p>i can't wait to get to college...if i could, i would never, ever come back here.</p>
<p>Be happy. I try and try to talk to my dad about college. I haven't visited anywhere, so I have a list of 13 schools! Whenever I asked a question, he just gives me this blank stare, doesn't say a word. </p>
<p>The extent of our college talk was me emailing him a list of the schools I think I'm applying to (if it's not in email he won't remember anything), and i got an "ok" back. On my Columbia ED app, he punched in his credit card number to pay the fee and that was that. No questions, reminder, not even hey what's your essay about. But I guess I shouldn't complain, it makes me put all the pressure on myself, which is ultimately a good thing.</p>
<p>He went to MIT when he was 15 or 16 so you'd think the pressure was on, but nope. Anyway, your parents all seem pretty ****ing awful. You're 17, 18, this is your job to do. I found it sostrange when I was searching for essay writing tips it all said "your child should..." opes to YOU.</p>