Is anyone maintaining a long distance relationship?

<p>Is anyone staying (or trying to stay with) their significant other during college?</p>

<p>i stayed with my boyfriend all four years of college. we saw each other every 2-3 weeks, sometimes longer.</p>

<p>ya and I'm sure he never cheated on you once.</p>

<p>lol that was harsh but could easily be true.</p>

<p>I see a lot of people try to maintain their high school crush relationships throughout college but most don't succeed from what I can see. Heck, most relationships at this age just don't work out in the long run anyway.</p>

<p>I've been with my gf for four years. She is staying in MN and I am going to Cornell. I pray it will work. I just don't know how...</p>

<p>I will be maintaining my relationship with my boyfriend of 3 years when we go to different colleges. It's going to be difficult, but I know we can do it. We'll be sure to not only call each other, but to send unexpected gifts and letters by mail every once in a while too. We will trust each other and give each other space to make new friends, but always make time to talk to one another even though we'll be in different time zones. We are committed to each other and would never cheat on each other. We will be both have jobs and make enough to see each other 1-2 times a month. </p>

<p>Trust is the most important factor in maintaining a relationship over a long distance. If you trust your boyfriend/girlfriend, you can avoid the jealousy, nervousness, and anxiety that often ends relationships. And make sure you continue to put each other first and make time for each other, even when you're super-busy making new friends and adjusting to life in a new city. :)</p>

<p>high school relationships rarely ever last.. but i guess some people get lucky, ay?</p>

<p>I was in the exact same situation as knoxxxville. He went to school 2 weeks ago. Yesterday he told me that he cheated on me with some random girl while he was drunk at a party. Now he knows that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me, is willing to do anything to get me back, etc. Its ********. Just break up and save yourself from this.</p>

<p>at least you guys didn't fall for the trap where you go to the same college as your bf/gf, even in the same room, and then end up breaking up first semester :D</p>

<p>you did that?</p>

<p>no, but I know some people who did</p>

<p>ah. that sucks.</p>

<p>Every single high school relationship I have seen ends by winter break. I take that back; the only relationship that has survived is that of my best friend's. Actually, he and his gf broke up before winter break because she cheated on him but they got back together afterwards and survived the rest of the 4 years. </p>

<p>Every couple believes theirs will last forever. My recommendation is to play it out and see where it goes, but do not get your hopes up. If it ends, it ends. More importantly, don't sacrifice important time during first semester to go see the other. You make the majority of your friends during the first semester and especially during the first month. Sacrificing every weekend will just screw you later on down the road when you guys break up.</p>

<p>I second shizz.</p>

<p>I started college 800 miles away from my high school boyfriend. We had been together for a year and were pretty serious, and I really cared about him, but ultimately he couldn't handle being apart so much. It's difficult when one person goes far from home and the other doesn't -- the one who doesn't sometimes resents the new experiences of the one who went away.</p>

<p>Of course, I know plenty of people who maintained an LDR all through college. It's possible, it's just hard, and anyone considering it should think long and hard about their commitment to their partner.</p>

<p>(Incidentally, I did exactly what shizz says not to do: I sacrificed many weekends my first term in college to go home and spend time with my boyfriend, and definitely missed out on having a wider circle of friends or meeting a lot of guys -- the boyfriend was the jealous type. But it actually worked out pretty well because my current boyfriend/future husband also stayed with his HS girlfriend through first term... we sort of got together to mutually cry on each others' shoulders and ended up falling in love. :))</p>

<p>Yup, it can be done. It's rare, but it can be done. One of my friends went to UNC on a Morehead Scholarship and her boyfriend went to UChicago on a baseball scholarship. They stuck it out all four years, and I went to their wedding about a month ago.</p>

<p>It can be done, but it's soooo much easier if you don't do it. If it's a relationship that you've been with for a while, though, and you're really committed to it, no reason why you can't see how it works out.</p>

<p>im going to northwestern, my gf of 3 years is staying in CA for college... we're breaking up. </p>

<p>My english teacher last year (who's in his mid-20s) told us during our college search process about how in his freshman year, he knew like 30 people in his dorm who thought they were gonna keep a long distance relationship, than the first time they went home (thanksgiving) broke up....It is VERY hard, and not much fun.</p>

<p>Im going to USC this year and leaving my gf behind in Las Vegas. We will only be 4 hours away and I plan to come visit at least once a month. I really luv her and hope we can work it out, but i must admit, part of me wants to live it up in college and experience other girls. Not to be conceded or anything, I consider myself a good looking, socially outgoing guy and i want to live it up while im young. But I am going to give it an honest effort to work it out with my gf.</p>

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<p>That's probably what you'll end up doing.</p>

<p>And how is it 'living it up' if you sleep with multiple girls?</p>

<p>I'm a junior transfer student, but closer to the age of many of you incoming freshmen. I was too younge to go away to the school(s) I had hoped to attend once I graduated high school (early grad). My family and I came to the conclusion that the whole 'college experience' wouldn't be worth as much at sixteen. As options, my parents suggested that I attend either the neighborhood UC, a CSU up the freeway, or a private that was within a 45 minute driving distance. I wasn't interested in any of these, so decided to go to the local community college. Okay, I apologize, just a little background info just so everyone knows that I will not be describing a high school relationship. But I still want to share to give some advice. :)</p>

<p>I started dating a guy who attended the same community college, and was very interested in transferring to the same UC as I was (Berkeley). The only problem was, he was a (school) year ahead of me, and got to leave to Berkeley last year, while I remained behind. </p>

<p>Let me tell you, the distance was less than 2 hours but it was obnoxious and testing. I was bitter because I wasn't experiencing what he was, and we just had such different lives, academically, socially, emotionally, etc. I didn't understand the whole university lifestyle yet, and I couldn't really relate to what he went through, enjoyed, and experienced. I wasn't an active member of his group of friends anymore, and he wasn't enjoying the friends we shared back home. We were making seperate memories and sometimes, that was very hard to come to terms with.</p>

<p>We weren't officially dating throuhgout the past year, but we remained 'in between', and still kept a fair level of commitment to one another. Just a word of advice to all of you - either stay together or firmly break up. The 'kinda/sorta/not really' relationship is hard on the heart and wearing on the soul. Although I eventually got my acceptance letter to Berkeley this past May, and will be moving up there in a few weeks to attend, the past school year was very difficult. It's hard to trust one another, and even harder to actually feel like you have a real significant other when there is enough distance to make seldom trips impossible. </p>

<p>There is so much guilt involved with long distance relationships. Instead of going to a party with your new roommate, you're stuck on your cell phone for two hours talking to your sweetheart. Or, in my case, instead of kicking back and enjoying the final few months in my hometown, I was jealous and afraid that he would soon meet someone else. I didn't like being that way, as I am usually a very accepting person.</p>

<p>Remember that college is a time to experience and grow. Luckily, my boypal and I will soon be living in the same town again, and attending the same university. But we're going to have to see how it goes. I'm excited to be able to share our lives together again, but things can change. In my heart, I hope things will work out, but it's hard to know for sure. I am a firm believer in true love, and a total hopeless romantic, but I also feel that relationships that existed prior to coming to college can possibly hold you back from exploring the great possibilities life brings your way.</p>

<p>Sorry for such a lengthy response; Good luck to you all!</p>

<p><3,</p>

<p>Izzie Bear</p>