<p>I don't know if I'm being immature or not, but my roommate and I had the same friends in the beginning of the year, we all live on the same hall. Now roommate and I don't get along and it's causing a split in the group and now I feel totally left out. I think I messed up in the beginning by getting to close to the roommate and the other girls on the hall instead of branching out and finding other people to hang out with. Blah. I'm miserable and hate this place and my roommate and want to transfer sooo bad.</p>
<p>Others might disagree since the general feeling here seems to be that you and your roommate should be the best of friends, but I definately think you should have a separate group of friends so that you don't have to be around the same person all the time, even if you do get along.
It's still early though.</p>
<p>no i do not believe that roommates should be best of friends. in fact, my roommate and i are not friends. we just tolerate each other mainly because we have nothing in common.</p>
<p>No, I agree with red. My roommate and I talk to eachother in the room, but don't hang out and don't have any of the same friends. It works out for the best.</p>
<p>I'm not sure whether or not its a good idea, but my roommate and I are really good friends and we hang out with the same group of people pretty much all the time. So far it hasn't created any friction for us. In fact, it makes our room a good place to hang out because neither of us mind when friends stop by, because, for the most part, they are mutual friends. It also means that I always have someone around to talk to, go to the dining hall with, etc. and we don't get left out of anything that's going on- our room has become a good meeting place for whatever our group has going on. However, there are other girls in our dorm who are having problems because they have all the same friends, but they don't get along all that well with each other. So far, I'm happy with the way things turned out, and I definitely think its better than things being tense between us or merely tolerating each other, but I can see how it could cause potential problems in the future.</p>
<p>My freshman year I was not very good friends with my roommate, but my sophomore year, since we choose our roommates from then on, is one of my closest friends here. Most of our friends are shared (though we do have some different frineds). So far, it's been great.</p>
<p>My roommate and I are definitely not the best of friends, though we usually get along fine. But it is hard, because our closest friends are close with both of us, and so if we're not feeling friendly some days, then that rift is definitely evident. Luckily, I've got a ton of other really good friends outside of our little group so there's always someone to hang out with, no matter what.</p>
<p>oh im friends with all the guys in my section, just not my roommate</p>
<p>If your mutual dormmates are choosing sides, then they really ARE NOT your friends. Just MOVE ON and meet other people.</p>
<p>You are not in hs anymore. You don't have to belong to the same clique of friends as your roommate.</p>
<p>You are learning a very important lesson about college life. Don't be so dependent on your roommate and any mutual friends/associates for 100% of your social interaction. Always have friends of your own!</p>
<p>GSP, I think you're taking the "choosing sides" thing a little far. Obviously no one wants to hang out with two people who don't get along (unless no one likes that one person, in which case it can be a pretty cruel joke on them), so people tend to be with one or the other and prefer to be with the one they get along with best. It's not like everyone's being split up into gangs depending on who they're friends with.</p>
<p>Ug. It's officially a BAD idea to live with friends. </p>
<p><em>a warning- this might not have much to do with the original post, but im so feeling this right now so I'm going to vent</em></p>
<p>So. I had the World's Worst Roommate last year. Really, she was psychotic and annoying and dumb and it was just a bad, toxic situation. So I was stoked when my friend expressed interest in taking her room. I failed to realize that I can only handle this friend in small doses at my own discretion, so now this sucks. She added a class I'm in even though it's not in her department. And she's trying to get accepted into my one and only (and highly beloved) EC. And omg it's just. too. much. So now, due to her being really stupid in her romantic relationship which is affecting her friendships with some of our mutual friends (and me- her behavior is awful right now), they're uneasy coming to visit me but i can't hang out with them without her wanting to come and then the friends get mad and its just an unending cycle of unnecessary drama and stupidity and OH MY GOD JUST GIVE ME SOME SPACE. </p>
<p>So. In summation, not a good idea.</p>
<p>I hear you allie. For me at least, the fact that I have little control over whether or not I hang out with my roommate has put a damper on my relationship with my current roommate.</p>
<p>my roommate is very separatre from me... separate frends, separate schedule... it works out pretty well that way thus far</p>