<p>Thanks dude.</p>
<p>Why didn't I get thanked :'(.</p>
<p>hey, why don't you keep us updated on what happens with this girl? did you decide what are you going to do? :)</p>
<p>Honestly, her level of jealousy seems more than a little problematic, and is definitely something you need to talk with her about. Everyone has the right to have and see friends outside of their relationship; being grilled about people in my phone and getting asked if I'm "being good" would scare the crap out of me whether it were coming from a guy or a woman. What the hell does that amount of suspicion and jealousy have to do with "taking a relationship to the next level"?!</p>
<p>Don't just break up with her about it, though. That would be really dumb of you if you actually like her, and you owe it to her to give her a chance to compromise--she may not realize it's a problem for you, so don't expect her to read your mind. Talk to her about it, be honest about the fact that things are bothering you, and see if there's anything you can do to reassure her and make her understand that you really do care about her without having to be on a leash all the time. THAT's the mature thing to do.</p>
<p>If you have that conversation and she still insists on treating you like a criminal... well, then you've got a real problem.</p>
<p>I really don't understand why people are painting this as some kind of ridiculous "battle of the sexes" issue. Yes, sex is serious, but what on earth does that have to do with starting to police your partner's behavior? NO ONE has that right, no matter what type of physical relationship you have. Women aren't preprogrammed to panic and start picking out wedding invitations when sex enters the picture. If your expectations are on the same page, things can go well. If they're severely mismatched, you'll have a problem unless you can communicate and compromise maturely about it. The end. Has nothing to do with gender.</p>
<p>I'll keep you posted, spitfire.</p>
<p>Thanks a lot of Pseudonym and rubywinger. </p>
<p>I guess the general consensus is that I'll have to talk to her about this...</p>