Is it my college...or is it me?

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<p>So I'm well into my second semester of freshman year, and I am still less than satisfied with the whole college experience. I made a great group of friends and we were really tight for the first month, but half of them lived off campus and once the excitement wore off, they stopped coming to school outside of class time. Two of them even ended up transferring to the nearby CC over break. The few who did live on campus seemed to find "better" groups of friends and we don't ever talk anymore. A select few of us (about 5) manage to all hang out together only about one weekend a month, cause of work schedules/significant others/etc. It is a lot of fun, but obviously not enough time hanging out. </p>

<p>I have made a small handful of other friends scattered amongst their own larger friend groups that I don't really fit into. I have tried joining clubs, but many of them only meet like once or twice a month, not enough time to get to really know people. I am just longing for that huge pack of friends that I had in high school. Almost all of my other friends from home who are freshman in college have found that, just naturally by hanging out with people in their dorm in an effortless sort of way. One of my friends who is a junior here said the only way anyone can end up loving our college is if you get REALLY involved in clubs, but my friends elsewhere aren't and they are having a great time.</p>

<p>I'm thinking of transferring for next fall. A few different things about that college compared to my current one are that you are required to live on campus, it is smack dab in the middle of a small town, and it's not a suitcase school. (where I am now, only 30% of students live on campus, it is 20 minutes outside of a city but in the middle of nowhere, and almost everyone leaves on the weekends). Also I am planning on living on a themed floor, maybe the one themed for transfers. (Right now my roommate and I somehow got put into a theatre majors themed floor. A lot of them are really nice, but they mostly knew each other from high school and are a super tight knit group, so hanging with them is awkward.) Unfortunately I'm kinda afraid that I'm going to HAVE to really put myself out there and get super involved in clubs that I just find tolerable to have a good time in college.</p>

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<p>sometimes clubs don’t really help that much, as I found out (and I do wish I had more time for clubs, though). But, just a personal opinion, I don’t think anyone really needs a big pack of friends, just a few really good ones. I’d rather have just one really good friend than a whole bunch of “ok” friends that are more like acquaintances and would leave the group after a while. It is difficult, though, that many of them live off campus. Could you maybe visit their off-campus homes over weekends? Just know that sometimes clubs aren’t the best way. Sometimes it’s going to the gym to play pickup basketball, etc.</p>

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<p>You’ve posted in the past about not being happy at your suitcase school. It’s obvious that this school is not a good fit for you. Perhaps you should look into transferring to a different school next year.</p>