Is it selfish for parents to pressure child to attend alma mater, especially safety-ish alma mater?

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<p>Quote of the day.</p>

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<p>Don’t you also mean like Penn State, Ohio State etc…you are rapidly loosing your debate.</p>

<p>“State school as in the non flagship” MSU is ranked higher than the flagship of many other states.</p>

<p>Yes MSU is ranked higher than many state flagships…which is why the OP is loosing the argument. Sorry, I cross-posted with my3sons on Ohio State and Penn State. Ohio State actually ranks quite favorable with MSU and we all know Ohio State considers themselves a peer to UofM. That is the sad truth about poor MSU and perception…on the other hand that adversity creates a strong, strong alumni bond…I’ll give MSU that coming from an M go Blue family and strong alumni feelings are never a negative in the work world. Not too many states can brag about two such strong institutions.</p>

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<p>I think I’m confused. Can somebody please remind me whose hate we’re talking about here? I’m beginning to think the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree.</p>

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<p>This is why I’m calling ■■■■■. He’s putting down a school as beneath him and can’t interpret basic descriptive statistics. </p>

<p>If you’re being serious, I wish you nothing but growth and maturity over the next few years- no matter where you end up. You’re going to need it or the world is going to eat you alive. </p>

<p>So your parents refuse to pay for college, will you be 18 by the time you graduate?</p>

<p>Getting back to the original question - I did everything I could to pressure my Ss not to attend my safety-ish alma mater. S1 was accepted there and two large OOS schools. He picked alma mater in part for the program concentration, which the others didn’t have, and partly for the in-state financial aid. He did very well for himself and was hired right out of school by the company at which he interned. S2 was accepted at a small LAC where he could have gotten some sports scholarship money but he insisted on alma mater, which burns me up … the LAC would have been much better for him academically, but I didn’t what to force it on him like my folks forced alma mater on me. He starts August 24 - we’ll see how things go. </p>

<p>^^No read the whole thread ambi. His parents will pay for MSU and buy him a home out of their pocket. If the OP goes elsewhere it comes out of the OPs trust fund.</p>

<p>The OP lost credibility on the trust fund post. </p>

<p>Sorry…I call ■■■■■, and NOT a newbie poster.</p>

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<p>@sally, I totally agree - I was laughing so hard this morning that my dog thought I was crazy.</p>

<p>I need to show the quote to my boss. He frequently wears his kid’s state school polo shirt on Friday.
The worse thing is that his alma mater has a huge sport rivalry with his kid’s state school - a total traitor.</p>

<p>Furry…doesn’t your dog have his own college garb :)</p>

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<p>Hey now! I’ve just spent all day wearing my UF Alumni t-shirt! :)</p>

<p>momofthree I was referring to other colleges, sorry, I should have clarified!
If OP really wants to go to another college, and he has enough money in the trust fund, I don’t see why not. I mean, isn’t that what a trust is for? If he gets a good job after graduating he’ll be able to purchase a house at one point, like anyone else with no trust.</p>

<p>The OP claims the parents won’t tap the trust fund for another college…preferring to save it for an engagement ring. Really?</p>

<p>The OP needs to know the provisions of that trust…like when HE is able to draw on it without parents.</p>

<p>Moving the goal post to fit your agenda: First I must have fabricated the average students that are going there. Then it’s maybe there are students but not that many. Then I cite a source proving 30% of the students have average or below numbers. Then it’s well every school has barely college ready students at the bottom quartile.</p>

<p>Obviously I know what quartile means. But the “debaters” moved the goal post from 30% to 25%.</p>

<p>And now people are offended my grandpa worked hard and left me some money to make my life easier. The point is that my dad is leading me to believe he’ll let me exhaust that trust going to NU or ND when he would be more than willing to spend that and more from his own money if I went to State. That is what agitates me and it’s frustrating because I’d like to think I want my kids to surpass my achievements. I really feel my parents want to like relive their college years through me.</p>

<p>Gull…what IS your issue? Your college costs will be paid regardless of where you go for undergrad according to post 116. What do you want…money left in the trust to buy an engagement ring someday? With your elite education, you should be able to get a decent job and save to make this purchase yourself.</p>

<p>You people are ridiculous. Stop attacking the OP because he/she ascribes to the heavily-championed idea that college is a big deal. Naturally, he/she doesn’t want to simply go to MSU or any school that doesn’t fit academically, socially, economically, or emotionally. I personally believe it is selfish of OP’s parents to push their alma mater so heavily. They should respect that MSU isn’t a good fit for their child. Would it be the end if the world if OP ended up at MSU? Of course not. However, if he/she believes that they will be happier and have better opportunities at a different school, I don’t understand how that is disrespectful or unreasonable as many of you suggest.</p>

<p>No one cares that the OP doesn’t want to go to MSU. People care that the OP has his head stuck in the sand about a school and its supposed perception by others. </p>