<p>i've been in both situations, I once dated a girl who was definitely less attractive then myself but i really liked her personality and thought she was plenty attractive enough, atleast to me, although she sometimes had insecurities and said i was too good for her. we also got alot of stares, most often from b!tches who wondered what i was doing with her.</p>
<p>I also recently dated a very hot girl, whom i had basically nothing in common with and she was far from my intellectual equal, although we made a "hot couple". </p>
<p>the relationship i enjoyed more? the ugly girl.</p>
<p>People who say that looks don't matter in a healthy relationship are fooling themselves. Also, people who put way too much emphasis on physical beauty within the boundaries of a relationship are also off their rockers. As others before me have said, there has to be a balance between both partners in the relationship, as far as looks go, in order for both partners to be satisfied. Your girlfriend obviously has her own set of hang-ups about the differences in attractiveness between you two. I think you should talk to her and assure her that she is beautiful in your eyes. If her hang-ups, as well as yours, are left unresolved, there will continue to be a sense of instability between you two.</p>
<p>Also the_vanquished, if you don't mind me asking, how attractive would you consider your girlfriend and yourself on a scale of 1 to 10? The disparity between you two can't be that great, can it?</p>
<p>I don't know, we get tards like this that are serious every once and a while. I kind of smell troll but we can have a bit more fun with him yet.</p>
<p>"That's why condoms, birth control, and the morning after pill were created."</p>
<p>Condoms don't do much to prevent genital warts. </p>
<p>If you want to "bang hot chicks," then do that in college if that's your prerogative. But if you are really honestly over that at this point and you want to be in a relationship, just be honest with yourself, and try to separate your own feelings from your worries about what other people would think. Like people have said, if you think she's attractive, and has a great personality, and you really like her, then what's the problem? What's really important is finding someone that you connect with and relate to, and all other things really end up being secondary. I'm not just talking out my rear here, either. I've been in a relationship for 3 and a half years so I think I have a pretty good idea of what makes them work. </p>
<p>Secondly, I really don't believe that you have to be of really close levels of physical attractiveness in order for the relationship to work. My brother is getting married this summer to a woman who is decidedly less attractive than he is, but he loves her regardless because they are such a good match in terms of interests and her personality, and she makes him happy.</p>
<p>I did not bother to read all the crap in the last two pages but here let me sum up my thoughts:</p>
<p>You are an idiot...? Really, is there even a question... What's the point of going out with a human sex toy and not being able to hold one conversation that would (if graded) get a grade above D...</p>
<p>Not attractive in a sexual sense, of course. That'd be absolutely bizarre. But I can assess whether he is handsome or not, just as a parent can claim that his/her son/daughter is handsome/beautiful. That you'd leap to that interpretation is rather disconcerting.</p>
<p>Of course I'm hoping that you were joking but I figured I'd hedge my bets anyway. :)</p>