<p>How many of you who are going to college in the same city your parents live in and you are living apart? Do you think it is embarrassing if you do?</p>
<p>I am asking this because I always have this feeling that my parents don't want to let me "grow up" and live on my own.</p>
<p>My father wanted to take a certification class and he happened to choose my school. I am taking late classes so I will be seeing him on campus.
I don’t think it is embarrassing college is a time for freedom but if you live in the same city as your parents why not live with them and save the 10,000+ it cost to live on your own?</p>
<p>I understand you want your independence, but I’m not sure if it’s worth paying hundreds of dollars a month in rent to get it. Personally, I’d just live at home. College is expensive enough as it is.</p>
<p>But isn’t it difficult to answer (for guys especially) when people ask “do you live alone?” and you answer “I live with my mother”</p>
<p>Well when you put it like that it sounds bad. It depends on how old you are i guess. If you are 41 and still living at home that would be embarrassing but being in your 20’s and living at home is not embarrassing in my opinion. Who cares what people think. People put other people down to make themselves feel better.</p>
<p>No, but it becomes inconvenient for me because then my mother will be monitoring everything. I am in my 20s and she still wants to baby me.</p>
<p>For instance, it’s okay to ask where I go when I was a teen, but asking me to the extreme detail like “why did you go to the store?” or “let me drive you! (even though it’s like two blocks away)” or even COOK like putting things in the microwave really gets on my nerves. She gets angry if I reject her offer.</p>
<p>I’m going to community college for two years and living at home (although I did do one semester at a dorm because I wanted to finish the year out at my old school) on purpose to SAVE money. If you can save money, that is definitely the way to go. Being fiscally smart shouldn’t be something to be embarrassed of:)</p>
<p>I’m in the same metropolitan area, about 30 minutes away. </p>
<p>@Laffy you don’t say that, you say “I commute.” Pretty much everyone understands that to mean you’re living with the 'rents. While I generally agree with the sentiments on here that it makes more financial sense to live at home, I think it’s pretty stifling if you’re in your 20s and your parents still treat you like a teenager.</p>
<p>I commuted last year and my dad and stepmom were cool about it. It’s not like I was going out very often anyway, but when I did a simple “keep us posted” sufficed (I’d text my dad when I was coming back home, or if I was gonna be gone for the night). I would have HATED it if I was treated like I was back in high school.</p>
<p>Okay i can see what you mean. It comes down to cost and rewards. If you are okay with spending a lot of money on rent but maintaining a high gpa then that is your choice.
If I were in your situation i would live at home but stay at the library a lot or another place. Make home a place to sleep only. This way you eliminate a fight with your mom.</p>
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<p>I could, but I am not sure how to convince my mother this. I have one of those typical Chinese mothers who loves her son to the point of “child worship”. </p>
<p>Thank you for all your responses by the way</p>
<p>I agree with Charlie. Get in the car, drive to campus, and stay there until all your work is done (which can take a while). It’s impossible to study at home.</p>
<p>I went to high school in the same small city that I am going to college in and I still live with my parents. I know I wanted to move out earlier on because I wanted my independence. I still do but considering what I have heard about the dorms and the crazy high rent around town I am pretty happy to be saving money for when I move out. And I have never gotten any snide comments about it. In fact many people wish they could just so save some money.</p>
<p>A Parent’s Perspective: Time to have a sit down heart-to-heart with your Mom.</p>
<p>We have 3 kids, 2 that went to college @ 1 hr away. They didn’t live at home, except in the summer, and it was fun treating them like adults. All we asked was just common courtesy, like they were a roomie or something. If they were going out, they would let us know, and to let us know if they would be late - not because we were "granting permission " - but because it was the polite thing to do.</p>
<p>So, treat your Mom like a rooomie, and she should treat you as another adult.
And you could maybe bring some friends over for a home-cooked meal, let your Mom feel motherly!</p>
<p>Good Luck.</p>
<p>Being embarrassed to be seen with your parents is very “high school.”</p>
<p>Get over it…everyone has parents, and those few who don’t envy those who do.</p>
<p>It’s not like your parents are going to trail you on campus, go and sit in class with you,
etc. No one on campus pays any attention to what you are doing or who you are doing it with.</p>