<p>I just moved into to my dorm at college and I have 4 other room mates, so far only one has moved in. but my concern is meeting people, everyone seems to be here with their parents and stuff moving in. Idk what to do, I really want to meet people but I don't know how or where to start. I don't know how to deal with the awkwardness of meeting new people especially girls. When i say hey to a new girl thats all it is, we say hey then thats it. And when we do say more than hey, it's really tense and just kind of like "sooo...." you know? nothing really to talk about, i try commenting on things around and being funny but i just feel like a jackass and it doesn't seem to work, any ideas?</p>
<p>Give it some time! You can just walk around to the other dorms and stick your head in and say "Hey I'm danzahxc" and then just comment about moving in, getting settled, the school, etc. I find that when people try to act funny when you first meet, they usually come off as a jackass. Just talk normal and be nice. Ask them if they'd like to go grab something to eat. IDK.</p>
<p>The default conversation topics with everyone you meet for the first few weeks tend to be your hometown & intended major. You can talk about interests too - favorite bands, TV, whatever. Of course it's going to be awkward, you just need to get past that point.</p>
<p>I suggest a couple rounds of Apples to Apples - nice icebreaker. Round up your floor to hang out, you'll figure out eventually if you are compatible or not.</p>
<p>Start dancing, they will be drawn to you.</p>
<p>Go streaking throughout the hall. People are drawn to streakers.</p>
<p>^^LOL. I mean, uh, what good advice.</p>
<p>The trick to talking us ladies is that you ask a lot of open questions and we'll do all the talking on our own. Questions like "so where you from?" or "what do you plan to study?" will lead to more stuff to talk about. Once she says something you make connections ("Hey I'm from the East Coast, too!") and things go from there.</p>
<p>PS: Welcome to CC! :]</p>
<p>Just remember when trying to make friends that everyone loves to talk about themselves. Have a whole series of questions ready (open ended ones--not ones that can be answered yes/no). The people you talk to will think you are the most charming person they've met because you're interested in them. Save information about yourself until you're asked or for a bit later in the conversation. One good measure of the potential friend value of those you meet is how soon they try to turn the conversation back to you.</p>
<p>^ Exactly. Ask questions and find common points. It'll become easier when people aren't so anxious.</p>
<p>It's hard the first day when everyone is getting settled in. Most are focused on organizing their rooms and making trips to Bed bath and Beyond. LOL
Does your school have an orientation the first few days? That is a good way to meet people. If not, then just try your best to ask how moving in is going, where you're from, etc. as others have suggested. Keep your door open. Things will fall into place as classes begin and you get more involved on campus. The first few days or even weeks can be awkward and uncomfortable for everyone as you all get used to the new experience of college life.</p>
<p>Oh, and FOUR roommates, wow. I hope you have a big room.</p>