<p>lol i didn’t mean about flowers and such, I meant all of this dating advice/not having friends phase that cc is going through</p>
<p>At the end of the day, it’s not about the flowers or the gesture, it’s the whole “letting her know that you like her” thing that I’m against…Why?..you don’t have to let her know and drop hints…where does that get you?..will she now like you because she knows that you like her?..letting her know that you like her when you’re not sure if she likes you is just going to hurt you.</p>
<p>Hey I know…why not just make sure she likes you…when she does she will let you know…whether it’s verbally or through her body language or whatever…and then after you are sure of that you can then let her know that you like her by telling her or kissing her or doing your flower routine or whatever…and now everything is in the open and its all gravy.</p>
<p>Seems like the logical process to me but anywayyyyyyy, got a little too much into this thread aha</p>
<p>“Hey I know…why not just make sure she likes you…when she does she will let you know.”</p>
<p>Why? Will letting him know make him like her? You make no sense at all, why can’t he make the first move? Dancing around wondering whether or not someone likes you is a foolish waste of energy. Having done it both ways, it is MUCH easier to just be direct. If they don’t like you, great, no time wasted and it’s relatively easy to get over. When you spend weeks trying to guess and THEN get rejected, it sucks.</p>
<p>…life skills seminar?
The young man had a question and we tried to help.</p>
<p>“Why? Will letting him know make him like her? You make no sense at all”</p>
<p>wow…ok…well first of all its kind of assumed in this thread that he likes her lol…why would you try to get with a girl if you didn’t like her, that my friend, makes no sense. </p>
<p>“Having done it both ways, it is MUCH easier to just be direct. If they don’t like you, great, no time wasted and it’s relatively easy to get over. When you spend weeks trying to guess and THEN get rejected, it sucks.”</p>
<p>Weeks? Since when did it take weeks? You don’t have to guess anything, you will know. If things flow they flow if not they don’t. Its not hard to figure out if someone likes you or not, common now. Believe it or not there are actually ways to convey a message (whether intentionally or not) without saying the actual message out loud. These things will happen, you should pick up on them, you should know.</p>
<p>You won’t get rejected if she comes at you.</p>
<p>I’m just trying to help also…I don’t want to get into a big argument…just kind of defending my posts that everyone keeps ripping up.</p>
<p>ok, guys i wont get her a flower…FINE!!..LOL
THIS GIRL IS DRIVING ME NUTS, AND I THOUGHT YOU KINDA HAD TO BE FRIENDS FIRST?</p>
<p>^^ It’s nice if you have some sort of basic relationship with her. In my opinion, there’s nothing more irritating then meeting someone for the first time, and within the first two minutes of conversation, they ask if you’re single or want a relationship.</p>
<p>Didn’t read the entire thread.</p>
<p>For the love of God, and I am sincerely trying to help you here, if you like the girl, then ask her out! Make a move! DO SOMETHING!! Don’t drop hints that you like the girl and expect her to pick it up. That’s what girls do. You’re gonna end up in the friend zone if you don’t make a move. And, even though not many things are impossible, I’m pretty sure getting out of the friend zone is as close as it gets (I’ve never seen, nor heard of, anyone doing it).</p>
<p>Also. Don’t creep anyone out by pouring out your feelings and confessing your love for them. Just…just don’t.</p>
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I’m not going to say that each of these is a great thing to do, but there IS a principle in persuasion called “social proof”. It’s one of those built-in things. We tend to believe what we see others doing. A girl seems to be enjoying herself talking to some guy, other girls are more likely to assume he’s someone worth talking to. Note I said “tend”; there is probably no hard-and-fast rule that applies to every person, every day of their life. And there may be some girls that don’t want the competition for the guys attention, or dislike the type of girl you’re talking to, so it can actually work against you. For example you’re having a great conversation with some girl who’s in a popular sorority, and well known for it; some girl who doesn’t know you well but despises the sorority-girl image may assume that’s the kind of girl you like and write you off.</p>
<p>So simply “being seen” with other girls isn’t enough; what you really want are girls the one you want to impress can identify with. And that’s why there is more than a grain of truth in the adage about attracting other hot women by being seen with one.</p>
<p>Just remember guys that thinking too hard is what usually gets you screwed. And no, not in that way you wanted.</p>
<p>scotchlite5- You said you two were friends in the original post. The few girls who responded liked the single flower gesture, in the right context. If she’s driving you nuts, dude, you’re already totally smitten. Isn’t it’s a great feeling being driven crazy just by the thought or sight of this girl?</p>
<p>SHES everything i want…and more. shes perfect. ive thought about her every day since the day i met her. i would do anything in the world for her. i could be having the worst day ever, and one thought of her would make everything better. when im with her, nothing else in the world matters, and she brings out the very best in me.</p>
<p>ok, i know that was kinda weird, but its how i feel. ive never had a gf or anything, she’s the first girl i care this much for.
the thing is, she tends to flirt with me a little, but i just dont know how to tell her. thats why i wanna give her little hints, so that i can see how she responds and have a better idea of how she feels abt me. i know…i know…i should just tell her…i know…</p>
<p>This isnt gonna turn out good.
Wayyyyy too invested</p>
<p>Nothing. You are stuck in the friend zone forever. There’s only 2 choices in those situations.</p>
<p>-Tell her and risk losing the friendship</p>
<p>-don’t tell her and painfully watch her being taken by another guy and listen to her sex stories about him.</p>
<p>Your choice dude.</p>
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<p>Oh god. That’s… not good. I hate to be the guy that says this, but life isn’t a fairy tale. You’re only going to get hurt getting so carried away with this girl. I bet you most guys have been in the position you’re in. You’re just in that naive (innocent) stage in your life… </p>
<p>If you want to attract girls, you gotta focus on yourself first. You falling head over heels is just not good for your mental/emotional state, nor will it help you attract her. In fact, it’ll more than likely hurt your chances. I honestly suggest you try and forget about her…</p>
<p>I remember you made another long thread about a girl you were obsessing over, is this the same girl? If it’s a different girl, seems like you get attached easily and maybe shouldn’t put girls on pedestals so quickly.</p>
<p>and if it’s the same girl, you’ve written like 20 pages about her online and confessed your love to us over and over, so
ASK HER OUT already! imagine if she says yes and then how happy you’ll be, just think of that :]</p>
<p>Sigh… You guys are right, im just gonna tell her, veryy soon</p>
<p>When I was in your position, I found that telling her and pouring out all my feelings wasn’t exactly what it was made out to be in the movies. Just led to drama. I always felt mentally ill afterwards. Every time I think back to these moments, I sort of cringe. I hope you don’t get too carried away when you tell her, if you ever decide to anyway.</p>
<p>By the way, you should watch (500) Days of Summer. Great movie. It’s relevant to the thread, I promise.</p>
<p>You guys are so cynical. Falling head over heels is fun. Sure sometimes it hurts, sometimes it doesn’t. That’s just part of life. You don’t need to rain on the kids parade just because you’ve had your heart broken.</p>