<p>Hi guys,</p>
<p>So I'm a student in my freshman year in college, and I've been experiencing a couple of confusing emotions that have been making me very sad and depressed lately. I guess I need some advice, or at least an ear.</p>
<p>A bit of background story: In high school, I was one of the top performing students, not necessarily grade wise, but at least in terms of my resevoir of knowledge - I was the brainiac, the nerd, the go-to guy for homework help and stuff... I was also extremely active in the school and the community. I also had big dreams for the world... I also had a curiosity in world peace and improving the welfare of people. I was also very optimistic, hopeful, and open to different socially progressive ideas and people. I worked very hard, though toward the end of my high school career, my grades started to slip, but my desire for knowledge didn't. My family and I had (still have) a very rough relationship, because I was very escapist in high school and they are hard-working bread and butter people who didn't really see the glamor in intellectual discourse and academia.</p>
<p>When I came to college, most of the students had similar interests and reasons for learning that I did. In fact, I'm really lucky to be at a school where people really value knowledge for its own sake and not for grades or competition... for the most part. But lately, I've been down and depressed... my grades were terribly mediocre last quarter, and my confidence as a student has waned. I have not participated in any community service activities, and my general optimism and desire for learning has gone from fanaticism to somewhat of a vague interest in the discussion of subjects like literature and sociology, which I thought were some of the most fascinating disciplines in high school.</p>
<p>Part of my depression and apathy toward academia and community service originates from other, deeper things. I have rationalized that since utopia cannot exist on this planet (the proof for this I guess is arguable, but let us assume for this particular confessional piece of cathartic writing that utopia is impossible), that therefore a clear image of what life should be like is impossible, and thus these little intermediate steps toward better healthcare, education, gay/women's rights, environmentalism, human rights... etc, are meaningless since they are all futile and cannot lead to perfection of humankind, since a perfect world cannot exist. Thus, volunteerism, community service, whatever... I feel is useless.</p>
<p>I also, aside from this philosophical argument, have realized a number of personal things about myself... I was such an ******* in high school. I didn't actually want a better world so that people could be healthier and happier... I just wanted the glory of being the one to bring about these changes. I didn't actually care about knowledge... I just wanted to show off how brilliant and academically adept I was... and now, I'm depressed and cynical because I feel like not only am I this way... self-deceptive, self-seeking and unaltruistic, but I feel like many students are this way... and it hurts me to be unable to 1) find a reason to learn and do community service anymore... 2) not to be able to do community service without having a self-serving reason like getting into med school or something.</p>
<p>I'm also depressed because my love life stinks in college... I had a lot of expectations of what college life would be like... an intellectually and culturally stimulating experience, full of people that I could be friends with, fall in love with... etc. I guess these were all elitist and selfish reasons for wanting to go to college. Even though it is somewhat human nature... it makes me sad that it has to be this way. I have a lot of friends, but I guess I feel really lonely.</p>
<p>If I became a volunteer in a nursing home... true commitment to the welfare of others is listening and wanting to be around some old woman who's decrepit and in need of company.. which I don't want to give. That's true community service, and I don't want to do that. I feel shallow, but hey I guess that's natural selection for you. I'm just afraid I don't/can't really love anyone or anything... I just lack the will to do anything these days. My life sucks right now... even though I am living comfortably, I guess I want something more. I just want sometimes to be with someone who I love... but I don't really have any admiration for people anymore... it makes me sad.</p>
<p>J</p>