Live with boyfriend?

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ARe you in school now? Are you both going to be juniors when you start at the new college and living together?

Some of the cons. If it is the first time living away from home for both of you, that’s a hard adjustment. If you’ve been living at home a lot of the conveniences are just THERE, and when you are living on your own you have to get used to going to the grocery store, doing the chores, cleaning up, arguing about cleaning up. Most people get that experience living in a dorm where you empty your own trash, but meals are prepared, halls and bathrooms are cleaned, etc. In the dorm you learn to live with noise, with slobs, with idiots - and at the end of the year you can walk away. You don’t want to walk away from your BF. You don’t want to get really mad at him for using the last of the milk. You’ll have to learn to pay the bills together, etc.

Another con may be what you may be giving up - study abroad, joining a sorority, going on spring break with your housemates or dormmates. When you are living with someone, you’re less likely to say “I’m going to Miami for the weekend.”

Pros? You know you’ll like your roommate.

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I have to agree with @twoinanddone^.

You’ve never lived on your own and you plan of living with your boyfriend out of the gate, and everything just seems so easy?

It takes a lot of money to live in an apartment. If I were your parents, I would make you pay your own housing. If you are adult enough to live on your own, you are adult enough to pay for your living situation.

You say:

What is wrong with two separate dorms?
Apartment costs add up immediately because they have to be furnished and have all kinds of costs:

-First and last months rent,
-Internet costs (see, in an apartment you have to pay these fees) in a dorm room, they are included in your fees.
Utilities which include: Gas, Electric, Laundry, trash, cell phone bills, renters insurance, and those are the have-to-haves.
You will need an effective mode of transportation.

You probably aren’t going to be paying for dorm meals so that means you will have to fork over your wallet for a LOT of take-out, or, someone has to cook.

To cook, you need to develop a strong penchant for microwaveable meals (Top Ramen, mac n cheese) or, you will need to buy some pots, pans, plates, cups, cutlery, pot holders, and regular trips to the grocery store.

Then you have to clean up, so you need to either have a dishwasher or you have to be a dishwasher.

His major is ME? You will never see him because he will have to be in labs, study groups and at tutoring, especially on weekends.

As a new “transfer” student at a university, you will have to manage your time, study effectively and efficiently while dealing with household tasks that you aint gonna like:
The toilet has to be scrubbed. The shower and mirrors need to be cleaned. The apartment needs to be picked up and “Swiff’ered”. Someone has to take out the trash and separate the recyclables.

You need to wash your sheets, bedding, and clothing constantly.
You may have to deal with “living” in an apartment. It is not a house. There are usually neighbors; they may be considerate, or not.

My dd’s apartment flooded, through no fault of her or her roommates. Her stuff was covered by insurance. The other’s weren’t quite so lucky.
Her friend’s apartment had uninvited visitors and other creepy crawlers.

Have you really thought this through?

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FYI:

I met my now husband freshman year of College. We never lived together. He did move to my side of campus though. We did things together but also could do things on our own.

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I’m late to the party but feel like I have some actual experience with this. My, now husband, and I actually met each other when we were housemates temporarily in college. We were 20 at the time, had our own rooms and additional roommates with their own rooms. A few months later he moved out into his already planned off campus apartment with roommates. My roommates started treating me terribly so I ended up moving in with my boyfriend. We loved with roommates for the first few years and eventually ended up on our own. Sharing with other people is kind of the best of both worlds. It will save you money, you still interact with other people, and you still get to spend time together. If things turn sour, just get a new roommate.

By the way, I’m now married to my college boyfriend and we have been together for 10 years. It’s nice to grow individually, but you can also grow together with the right person.