<p>Advice would be nice but really I'm just venting here. High school was not a good time for me. I was very lonely and only had a couple friends. I had high hopes for college. I imagined that people would be different. That I would be different. That I would have friends. In high school I didn't drink or smoke. Coming to college, I wanted to fit in so I started drinking and smoking. That didn't work. I'm a nice guy but people seem to not like me. I don't smell bad. I don't look weird. At least not too weird. I just don't fit in. Everyone listens to that dupstep stuff and I listen to hard rock and heavy metal. I only have one friend here and that's just because we went to the same high school. I'm just not the kind of person who jumps into everyone's conversation or knocks on peoples' doors to say hi. That's just not me. So I'm thinking I'm going to be lonely for the rest of my life.</p>
<p>I’m like you. Are you INTJ or something similar? I say just focus on the education and accomplishing things YOU want to accomplish. Happiness will come.</p>
<p>“The tallest tree in the forest is destined to grow up all alone…”</p>
<p>I don’t have very many friends and I’ve recently learned that this is because I have a very unlikable personality. <em>I</em> wouldn’t want to be my own friend…but I’m too stubborn to change…that’s one thing I like about me…</p>
<p>My education is not as important to me as it is to most other people it seems. I’m just in school because everyone says that is what we’re supposed to do. If it were up to me I’d start a band and live with them. I just don’t feel like anyone in my generation is like me. I get along better with much older people.</p>
<p>I’m actually considering dropping out of school.</p>
<p>Heavy metal rules dude</p>
<p>@ Jason- Don’t drop out! It’s not necessarily “easy” to find your niche in life, but it does happen in time. Have you tried getting involved at your university’s clubs and student life? You don’t have to go around knocking on people’s doors, but student organizations and clubs are a great way to get involved. I remember seeing a ton of students partaking in Humans v. Zombies at my university last year…looked like tons of fun! It’s not always easy to reach out to try to fit it, but its definitely a lot more fun when you do!</p>
<p>I haven’t tried to join any clubs. Also, a lot of the groups are about community service and I don’t mean to sound like an ******* but I’m not looking to do any community service. I was a cub scout from 2nd grade to 5th and a boy scout from 6th through whenever it is that I became an eagle scout. The point is, the thought of community service makes me think of scouting which leads me to wanting to throw up. (I hated scouting but my mom never let me quit.)
I think that is great advice though so I think I will look into some clubs or organizations.</p>
<p>College was lonely for me, also. It wasn’t until I started my teaching profession that I started making friends. When I had kids, I made new friends, as they grew up, I did other things. Friends can be transient. College can be lonely, but don’t drop out. Hang on to that one friend and he will probably make connections that will include you, too. Have you tried a contemporary church? Join the orchestra or band?</p>
<p>hey- I’m a little bit similar to you, I don’t make friends easily and can be really shy and introverted. It gets harder as the semester goes on, but it’s never impossible to make new friends. I know it might be hard, but you can’t just sit around waiting for people to randomly befriend you- you have to do some work too. Talk to someone in one of your classes and ask them if they want to study for a test with you one night, sit with someone from class at dinner, ask someone in your dorm if you have a floor meeting coming up, etc… For me, it helps to sort of have an “excuse” to talk to someone, like checking in about homework. From there, you can start to get to know them more. </p>
<p>And not all clubs have to do with community service…at least at my school, they have clubs about languages and sports and religion and politics and even science fiction. So poke around a little bit and see if there’s anything that seems interesting to you. </p>
<p>Also, I know that sometimes I can be way to self critical and over analyze situations- just try to think about the good things about yourself. Although making friends doesn’t have to be ALL on you, it’s party up to you, and it’s important to be willing to put yourself out there, even just a little bit, or people will think you don’t want to make friends and will stay away. There’s a girl who lives in my dorm- I think she want to make friends, but she so stand-offish and dismissive, it impossible to get through to her. Like if I pass her in the hall, and try to look at her and smile, just acknowledge her presence, she like squeees up again the opposite wall, looks down and mumbles “sorry”… It can be really difficult to make friends with people like that, even though they may be super cool and nice. So put yourself out there, even a little bit, even just saying “Hi” when you see someone in the bathroom, or striking up a conversation with someone from your Spanish class after you just had a test/</p>
<p>good luck! I know it’s hard, but in the long fun it will make you happier and proud that you did it. You aren’t an unlikable leper!</p>
<p>I’m like you.</p>